The Final Solution to Dating
I run a blog where I discuss the topic of the many games people
play in the dating arena. I've posted hundreds of articles, many
of which point out many of these troubles. Even if you haven't
read the blog, you probably are aware of some of these schemes.
While I wish it were easy to sum everything up into one neat,
overlying problem, it's not that simple. Let me point out just a
few of the issues.
For one, there's a definite lack of respect in dating nowadays.
People don't even care about their partners enough to treat them
as they deserve to be treated. Gossip, ridiculously high
expectations, and rejections by ignorance are only some of the
examples in this area. Grandparents are always carrying on about
how today's generation has such a lack of respect. They talk
about how, in their day, people cared about others and banded
together through difficult problems. Why do they talk about
these things? Because they're right! Through every activity in
which I've been involved, I've encountered this problem. I'm
tired of working for a hundred hours on a video project when the
president of the organization receives but doesn't bother to
even reply to your E-Mails asking him to review it. I'm sick of
being ostracized from groups because I don't care to participate
in their petty disagreements. And I'm exhausted after people
expect me to work to death in volunteer organizations!
There are always exceptions to this rule, and I'm sure that
there are many people who do have a great deal of respect for
both their peers and their elders. Unfortunately, the majority,
or at least the majority with the most influence, simply don't
care.
Second, nobody is honest with themselves, let alone anyone else.
Dating has turned into a torrent of backstabbing of which even
Mark Burnett would be proud. Asking someone out is nearly
impossible, because the gossip about it has already spread to a
thousand people before you make the move. Then, when a rejection
occurs (even if it's not rude), the rejector spreads rumors
around to all his/her friends that cause them to completely
ignore you, refusing to invite you to parties or even to
initiate conversations with you. The biggest insult is that even
if you asked point-blank, you'd still never get a truthful
answer as to why such harm was directed towards you.
As if what occurs after a rejection isn't enough, people attempt
to steal others' girl/boyfriends. One day, things are going
well, and the next you find yourself wondering what happened to
the relationship that was forming - that is, until you notice
that person spending a lot of time with who you thought was your
best friend. No explanation is offered, not even a "good-bye."
Third, people are not looking for someone who spends his or her
time working to get ahead instead of getting flat-out drunk, who
doesn't curse at or ignore his or her mate, and who actually
makes time for whatever is occurring between them (whether it be
a full-fledged relationship or just plain sex). They say they're
looking for these things, but in reality, they're attracted to
people with the attributes described above. "Confidence" is not
the answer to the equation. Assuming they both possess the same
level of "confidence," the above-described person would win
every time over the "warm, caring, and intelligent" (wo)man that
people claim is the ideal mate.
The list of problems goes on. You might be intrigued to hear
that while the problems seem innumerable, I propose they can all
be rectified with the simplest of solutions. There's no danger
involved, nobody has to lead radical changes, and it doesn't
involve an "impossible" fight against biology.
I simply propose for men to stop asking women out.
Not for the rest of your life, but for just a short time, say, a
month. It's not impossible, and you won't have to do it as much
after the month passes. While there are a few (rare) exceptions,
the vast majority of women don't ask out men 50% of the time.
Women do have the advantage in dating, and it's time to level
the playing field. Sure, talk with women as friends, and if
someone initiates a conversation with you, then definitely
reciprocate. However, let the woman ask you out if she's
interested, no matter how attractive she is to you.
Some women have never asked anyone out in their lives. It's no
wonder why these women continually treat men like they're lower
beings. If they had to put up with the rejections that most men
do all the time, I guarantee that they would have more respect
for men. Women would no longer put up with moving from guy to
guy based on who was interested in her at the moment. And
spreading gossip about potential romantic interests certainly
isn't going to help one's prospects.
People need to realize that humans, for all their ancestry, are
not monkeys or horses or rabbits. They're humans, who can think
and act for themselves.
Men have so much more capacity in the dating arena than
constantly looking for sex at all costs, if they would only
exercise it. It's time to stop being prisoners to so-called
"biology." Women have the same urges men do, and they should do
half the work, not 10% or 20%.
There are a lot of "seduction communities" on the Internet that
teach men how to "seduce" women. I don't know of any similar
organization that teaches women how to impress men with the same
fervor.
There's my proposal. I don't think it's hard to implement.
Imagine if all the men even at one corporation or university
decided to ban together. Laziness won't be a problem,
becausenobody even has to do anything. It's time to change our
distorted culture. All I'm suggesting is to promote equality. Is
that such a bad thing?