Start Your Own Businesses Ladies

When I first realized that divorce was imminent in my relationship, my first thought was, "What on earth am I going to do for money?" I'm the first to admit that I make a terrible employee. Up to that time, as a stay-at-home-mom, I'd been making my own schedule, making all of the rules with regard to when, where, why and how I was going to do what needed to be done. Against my better judgement, I entered the job search jungle, and hated it. I got a job, and quit after 3 months. When I thought about it, getting a job was taking the easy way out. Starting my own business would not only be much more difficult, but it would ultimately be more rewarding. I had been trained to design clothing (back when Fred Flintstone was a kid), and had an obsession with fashion...handbags in particular. So, I knew my way around a yard of fabric and a pair of scissors. I also had an ongoing complaint with regard to what was then available in the marketplace with regard to unique, affordable handbags. I thought about starting my own business. I originally had my doubts as to just whether or not I could do this thing on my own. I had fear. But I wasn't afraid of failing. If I failed, what would change? My life would stay the same. I knew how to do "same". But if I succeeded, things would change. It was change that scared me. I nearly let that fear scare me out of starting my business. If that had happened, I would be financially reliant on what scraps my ex would dole out for the next who knows how long, and THAT was not an option. So I started my business. First, I made cute little handbags for my daughters, who wore those bags to school. That led to handbag requests from their friends, who asked for my creations as birthday presents. That grew to stores and boutiques carrying my product. Twenty three to be exact. I loved it! This independence was incredible. I was (and am) in heaven! My ex would come over to pick up the kids, and when we opened the front door, the kids would say, "Welcome to our shipping department." I had so many orders, I didn't know what to do with myself. I've since expanded my business to include jewelry besides handbags. I have my own web business, and I'm the boss! I do what I want, when I want, and how I want to. Nobody tells me what I can and cannot do. When I get coffee, I get it for myself...no one else. Be the boss ladies. Don't you dare allow divorce hamper your desire or ability to succeed on your own. Use it to fuel your desire for financial independence. Martinis for Everyone! Debbie Burgin. Copyright 2006 Debbie Burgin All Rights Reserved