Attract Mr. Right: Your Holiday Action Plan
Holiday season is officially upon us. Here's a quick course to
help ensure you spend a romantic, magical 2006 with the kind of
man you've always dreamed about:
1) Love yourself. It's been said that you can't love anybody
else until you love yourself. Well, I'll go one further: Nobody
can love you until you love yourself, either. Until you do, you
will continue to attract losers, abusers, schmoozers, and
No-Show Joes. Love yourself, and you will attract men who love
you and make you happy. It's that simple.
2) Bring to mind all the frogs you've kissed over the years.
Write a list of the qualities you didn't like about them. How
did they disappoint you?
3) Turn that list around. Write the opposite quality for every
bad quality you listed. For example, if your former boyfriends
were unfaithful, dishonest, manipulative, unreliable, you'd turn
the list around to read: faithful, truthful, respectful of my
feelings, and reliable.
4) Write an affirmation around your new list using the present
tense. For example, "I am happily married (or involved with) a
faithful, truthful, reliable man, who is fun to be with and
respectful of my feelings." (Add the word "fun" to ensure you
don't attract the nice but boring type.)
5) Write your affirmation 10-15 times a day for at least 30
days. It helps to conjure the sensation of how you'd feel when
you are actually with the person you've described (feeling the
affirmation helps convince the subconscious that what you're
writing is fact). If you're feeling ambitious, try writing your
affirmation with your non-dominant hand three to six times.
6) For the next 30 days, speak your affirmation: In the shower,
in the car, while you're cooking dinner (but not on the bus or
in a restaurant; people will laugh at you). Again, allow
yourself to feel it. This may take time, but keep at it.
7) Be the person you want to marry. If you want a truthful man,
be truthful. If you want somebody who resists playing head
games, don't play them. If you want somebody polite, turn your
cell phone off before you go into the movie theater and drive 25
mph in 25 mph zones.
8) Love yourself. Yes, I'm repeating myself, but loving yourself
ensures you attract good men (as well as good jobs, good
friends, good parties). What's more, you'll be more likely to
recognize all this goodness when it appears.
9) Become aware of inner changes. After a while, you'll begin to
attract a different kind of man. More important, you'll be
attracted to a different type of man. Man-meeting opportunities
will suddenly become abundant. Take notice.