Fears of women's mind and its way outs
Fear is present almost everywhere. It is natural feeling of
mankind. Every person in this world has fear inside, whether it
is in immense quantity or little, but it is there and nobody can
deny it. Fear can be of anything such as fear of beloved's death
or even self, fear of loneliness, fear of natural disasters etc.
Women are more emotional and softhearted in comparison of men,
that's the reason that they may have more than one fear. Lets
find out what kind of fears usually women have, and how they can
avoid such frightening states of mind.
* Fear of poor image: Julia has fear of poor image. She usually
feared of what people would think of her. Even in her office she
feels the same, so her colleagues take advantage of her for
their work. She couldn't able to even deny of working over time.
She thinks that if she denies them, they would have bad feeling
for her.
Alike Julia there are many women in our society are bearing
injustice and tribulations, because they doesn't speak out a
single word against it. Maybe this help in making excellent
image but the fact is they are putting in tons of tension and
stress in their minds.
Solution: First you find out, in taking care of your beloved,
family members, colleagues and other people that you are not
putting scissors on your own desires and wishes. If this is
happening, then be sure to live little for yourself, for example
if you want to go cinema with your friends in the evening, at
the same time you also have to cook for your family. Start
preparing for the dinner right from the afternoon. This will
make you confirm for your evening show with your friends.
* Fear of loneliness: Now-a-days, number of single women is
rapidly increasing. Most of these women are unmarried, widowed,
divorcees or those who live far from their homes for
employments. Whatever the reason is, in such cases these women
suffers from cavernous loneliness. Everybody wants to run away
from being alone. Emotional warmth is primary need of every
single individual. If someone has to pass from long loneliness
period, she may fall in steep valley of depression.
Solution: The best way-out of thorny loneliness is the good
friend circle. If you are alone then make some good friends or
try to refresh old friendships and sustain it healthily. Go to
social fair and common meetings; make out habit like gardening,
cooking, reading etc. This will help you to get out of aloneness.
* Fear of getting unsuccessful in relationships: Maria's parents
were divorced after a long case in court. This created fear in
Maria's mind, that she would never be able to make successful
relations. After, of being aged for marriage she was afraid of
being married. She thought that she would never make out a
successful married life.
Solution: Try to make dialogue with family members, discuss your
fear with them. If any relation breaks don't blame yourself.
Relations are like delicate piece of chinaware it may break. It
doesn't mean that all relation will break down in same manner.
Remember after every night there is sunshine.
* Fear of Taking Wrong Decision: Sherin loved to paint since
from her childhood. When she completed her schooling, she
decided to go for diploma in fine arts. However, everybody in
her family insist her that there is no value of such course, so
she must complete graduation. She got puzzled what to do? She
was feared of taking wrong decision.
Most women are feared whether they would be able to take right
decision or not. Whether it is about studies, carrier, selecting
partner or marriage. This is only due lack of self-confidence.
Normally surrounding people compress the inherent qualities by
directing what to wear and what not, how to talk - where to talk
and many such things. Due to this women are unable to boost
confidence in them.
Solution: Make out your decision on your own. If you wish to get
some suggestion take it from intellectual individual but always
keep your decision as last and final. After making any decision
think on both positive as well as negative aspects of it. From
which side you are satisfied do those things. If still confused,
take suggestion from your family member or friend.
* Fear of Child's future: Every parent is concerned about their
children's future, especially mothers. What will be their
career, what they will do in future? Mothers are particularly
worried about daughters that whether they will adjust with
different family, environment and surroundings, after marriage.
For this reason mother often scold her children, and this
results friction in their relations.
Solution: Try to cut generation gap between you and your
children. Regularly discuss about their career prospects.
Support them in taking major decisions like selecting jobs and
marriage. But, do not pressurize them to comply your decisions.
Guide them, but don't interfere in their personal life. This
way, they will feel free to discuss anything with you.
* Fear of Economic Drop: Mostly the housewives are fear of
loosing economic status in their society, if their husband earn
little income or spends money lavishly. They think if worst
financial circumstances would arise than what she will do?
Solution: Make budget for your household expenses. Try to save
money and find out small investment schemes available that are
enormously available in the market. Make habit in your children
to save money also. You can also run small-scale business from
your own house.
* Fear of sexual abuse: Nowadays criminal activities such as
rape, sexual abuse, kidnapping and killing are rapidly
increasing. Even it happens at public places like cinema halls,
shopping malls etc. In this scenario it is obvious that women
would scared of becoming victim of such incidence. Solution:
Avoid going to lonely places after dark. Learn some defensive
arts such as Kung fu or Karate. Be brave, you should fight back
if it happens to you. This is the only way-out from this fear.
* Fear of getting old: Today, glamour rules everywhere and outer
appearance is significantly considered. So, many women think
that their growing age will reduce interests of their husband in
them or people will not take notice of them. This normally
happens to the women who have crossed 40s. Solution: Every age
has its charm, enjoy each and every moment of your life. Regular
exercise, yoga, meditation and proper diet will certainly help
you out. You can also visit beauty parlor, but not often. Keep
in mind true beauty always lies inside you and everyone will
become older, today or tomorrow. Remember those words? "Old is
Gold", where 'Gold' depicts the maturity of a person.
* Fear of natural calamity: American people have recently
witnessed natural disaster almost face to face, experienced it's
worst consequences. But, it has to be accepted that nobody can
stop it. So, the fear of such calamities should be eradicated.
Solution: Nobody have control over death, but certainly on life.
Live - enjoy each and every moment of your life. Who knows, what
is to be happened next. So don't be afraid of next, after-all
life is to live with bravery and joyful heart.
Its good to be feared as it makes you more precautious. But
don't let your fear rule your desires. Remember, women are
god-made wonder. You are the only one on this earth who can
create miracle by giving birth. You are the one who runs the
world. I have experienced the power of changing the worst things
into best, as my mother, wife and daughter are women. They have
immense inherent capability to make all things good.
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