Dating Success: Dress to Attract the Man of Your Dreams
In order to attract the man of your dreams, it helps to dress in
a way that honors your beautiful body. When I use the word
"honor," I don't mean you should dress like a nun or hide
yourself in an ankle-length skirt and a turtleneck.
But you should wear only clothes that make the best of your
unique shape. Too many fleshy women (and there are lots of men
who prefer robust females over skimpier lasses) are currently
wandering the planet in low-rise jeans and tank tops, which
results in a phenomenon known as "muffin top." In other words,
they're walking around with a wedge of flab over their
waistbands. Not a good look.
Before you hop on whatever trend they're pushing in InStyle
magazine, ask yourself if the look works for you and your
beautiful body. I once read an interview with the actress Sela
Ward, in which she said she chooses clothes to show off her
amazing flat stomach but avoids items that expose her flabby
thighs. You see, nobody's perfect!
The key is to emphasize what you do have and to detract from
what you don't. Buy only the clothes that you know you'll put on
over and over again because they make you feel fantastic. Think
twice about any garment heralded by women's magazines as
"must-have" items. The only "must-haves" in life are oxygen and
self-esteem.
Which brings me to my next subject: When you go out to a club, a
bar or a party, you will notice that 3/4 of the other women are
half naked. Yes, some of them look quite good half naked (while
the other half look quite scary), but dressing provocatively
often attracts the very guys a woman would do better to avoid.
Put it this way: If you don't leave anything to the imagination,
you usually attract a guy with no imagination.
At the end of the day, you don't want to attract a guy because
he thinks you're hot. You want to attract a guy who likes you
for you. Dress sexily but subtly. You don't want your clothes to
scream, "I gotta find me a man tonight!"
Dress comfortably. If you feel comfortable, you'll look
comfortable, and that's sexy. Here's an example: Once upon a
time I went to the beach with some friends who actually have
melanin in their skin. They took to their blankets in their cute
bikinis, while I (so pale I make Snow White look like Grace
Jones) sat beside them wearing Levis, a long-sleeved shirt, and
sunglasses.
Out of nowhere, a gorgeous, well-toned man appeared (the type of
guy you see in suntan lotion commercials) and asked me, the
freak on the beach, what I was reading.
"Wuthering Heights," I said.
"Really?" he asked. "I just finished Jane Eyre."
And so began a little romance.
Still bewildered, I told my male friend B. this story years
later. I didn't understand why this Adonis chose
Glow-in-the-Dark Terry over the dark lovelies in bikinis.
"I understand completely," B. responded. "The beach was crawling
with girls in bikinis, and you presented something else. A
little mystery."
"In a pair of Levis?"
"Yeah," he said. "The guy probably thought, this girl is
different. I want to talk to her."
Does this mean you should throw away your bikini? Heck, no,
especially if you look good in it. But the point is, be true to
yourself. Dress to make the very best of your unique and
beautiful body.
You'll attract men who are looking for someone special for a
change.