Relationship Advice: First Date Sex? Should You?
Everybody on TV seems to be tumbling into bed on the first date
these days, but should you? Absolutely not, and I don't care if
you've been celibate since 1996.
Here's why:
1. Chances are, you've just met the guy. You know nothing about
him, let alone whether he bathes daily, or if he's one of those
losers who picks his nose at stoplights.
2. My OB/GYN estimates that two out of five people are walking
around with Herpes Simplex II. Some of them don't even know it.
Do you want to become one of the two out of five?
3. If you have sex with a guy on a first date, how do you know
that he doesn't leap into the sack with every other woman he
meets? Do you really want to get involved with someone that
easy? He doesn't make quality boyfriend or husband material.
All right then, how about third-date sex?
You may really be ripe for action, but I still advocate waiting.
You can learn a lot more about a man (without clouding your
judgment) if you keep sex out of the equation until the time is
right. And waiting builds passion!
You're less likely to have bad sex with a man you've taken your
time with than with some clown you hit the sheets with too soon.
Of course, you risk being dumped if you don't hop into bed right
away with certain guys. But think about it: Wouldn't you rather
be dumped than be saddled with someone who's so utterly
superficial and self-involved?
You deserve better.