Submission and Obedience
Studies have shown that eighty percent, of all males and
females, fit into standard categories of strengths and
weaknesses. Thus, it is comfortable, convenient, and or best
fits their abilities for them to follow traditional teachings
for their roles. If where you are within the eighty percent
bracket, this article may not be for you.
Though, if you are in the other twenty percent category,
likely, your mate will be too. In such cases, a marriage works
much better when couples stop trying to fill standard
expectations and carry the roles God best equipped each for.
However God created you; He did not make a mistake.
Having once experienced an abusive marriage and another kind of
abuse in the church, thought to be the wrong gender to serve
God, I had great need to 'know' God's intent for submission and
obedience.
First, in an abusive relationship, obeying means things like ~
if you open a two liter of pop while the mate it away, some of
the fiz could possibly fizzle out and who knew that would make
them angry!? Though, you can expect to find yourself curled into
a corner, in the fetal position, protecting as many body parts
as possible.
And, when the church tells wives to obey, the message is that
this is what God is like.
Then, when God's calling was contrary to authority's
acceptance, it would eat at my soul. God did not stop calling,
as He did not change His mind (Ro. 11:29). To hear the cries of
others in need and to not be able to do anything about it was as
much torment as being held captive/prisoner