Ten Compelling, Bottom-Line Questions to Answer before you
launch your search for the love of your l
Ten Compelling, Bottom-Line Questions to Answer before you
launch your search for the love of your life Looking for a
partner or love of our life, can be exciting, challenging and
extremely frustrating. If you are truly serious, time spent on
yourself, answering the following questions, can lower the risk
of frustration and raise the chances of success. . 1.Who are
you? Does question excite you, scare you? Most people have never
really taken the time to answer this fully. The best way to
answer this is your own self-reflection and input from those who
know you best. Ask you close friends to help. The importance, of
course, is communicating who you are, separate from what you do,
to your potential partners. 2.What are your values? This
question may seem quite simple, but do not let it go
undiscovered. Values come strongly from our families but are
refined/changed based on our life experiences. Know your top 5.
3.What do you want from a relationship? Many singles are busy
people and have established themselves as independent and
self-sufficient. Being clear on what you want allows you to make
better decisions. In otherwords, what could be better in your
life if you had a partner. 4.What are the barriers you have
encountered in the past? Most singles, with some prompting, can
discover and name what obstacles that arose in the past? For
example intimacy too fast, lack of time for relationship, lack
of trust. Knowing these issues can help you plan ahead and avoid
"being blind" to situations. 5.Are you been living in ways that
support you desire? Interestingly, many singles say they want a
relationship, yet their actions don't support that. One way is
looking at your habits. How many day to day activities bring you
in contact with potential partners? What can you do to change
your routines? Are you friendly, outgoing when you meet new
people? 6.Do you have time allocated for doing this to support
the value? Again, most singles are busy people. What time are
you going to allot to support your search, meet and get to know
new people? Remember 24 hours/day is all we have single or
married! 7.What are your non-negotiables for yourself and for a
potential partner? What are habits, life style, situations that
you could not live with? What are things in your life that you
are not willing to give up? Most relationships break up in the
first year due to the ignoring of this factor. 8.What are your
negotiables for yourself and for a potential partner? This is
similar question as above but is more about your own life now.
What are you willing to give up to make room for a new
relationship. 9.What type of relationship will best serve you at
this time? Today, more than any other time in history, we have
no real norms. As with negotiables, take the time to think about
what you are looking for. Companionship and weekend
relationship, marriage, step-parenting or more children.
10.Do you have your dinner/lunch interview ready? This might
sound bit corny. However, having met a potential partner, the
next step of a more serious conversation is imminent. Being
prepared with the knowledge you have gathered from the last 9,
as well as communication skills to listen to your "prospect",
valuable time can be saved if this dinner conversation is well
planned.
This list was created after my own single journey and finding
the love of my life as well as coaching many single people to
successfully meeting their love of their life! Author's note