Are You Successful? Or Just Chasing Your Tail?
We talk about success as though it's an event or a thing. We
refer to people wearing "the badges of success", and carrying
around (or wearing or driving) the latest status symbol.
But success is not a thing - it is a way of being in the world.
You can have all the riches in the world, and still feel like a
failure if you aren't following your life's true purpose. This
is a special kind of stress.
Or you might have nothing but the clothes you stand in and feel
like the biggest success in the world... if you are following
your heart. And that is a very special kind of 'Bliss'.
Day after day you may struggle through your to-do list or
Objectives Project Plan, cross off most of the big items, and
maybe even feel like you have had a successful day.
But are you barking up the wrong tree? A successfully completed
task doesn't mean a thing if it isn't taking you nearer your
true life goals by following your heart.
So what does it mean to follow the heart?
One way of looking at this is to ask yourself "Where do I get
approval from? Is it from inside of me, or from others?"
"Where do I find satisfaction? Do I find it in things and other
people, or in the silence I find inside myself?"
These are difficult questions. It may be that you cannot even
think of a time when you experienced silence within. That may be
because you are too busy chasing after things that make too much
noise!
There is nothing 'deadly serious' in the act of looking for
inner silence. In fact, it leads to more fun, not less. More
delight, not more depression or burn-out. And it leads to more
success. Because the strength you take from inner silence
restores the ability to see what is truly valuable. Friendship,
love, compassion and commitment to something bigger than oneself.
Imagine yourself on your death-bed, if that isn't too
depressing! What will you look back on as the successes in your
life? When was the point at which you redefined success and
failure, and realised that the only real yardstick is within you?
Success is not an event. Success is an attitude.
Let Victor Frankl have the last word on success. Frankl was a
great psychotherapist who forged his theories and practice under
the most extreme form of stress: as a prisoner in Nazi
concentration camps.
"Success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue... as
the unattained side effect of one's personal dedication to a
course greater than oneself."