Walking down the Wedding aisle: Who walks who, anyway?
Another dilemma that often comes up when planning a wedding is
who will walk the bride down the aisle. Although traditionally
it's the father that does this, the plethora of step-families
has made it a more difficult decision. This is especially true
when the step parents have been in the children's lives for a
long time.
Breaking tradition
A bride that has both a step father and a biological father may
opt still to have her biological father walk her down the aisle.
This can be a way to show her family bond as well as stick with
tradition. In the case of a bride that hasn't been close to her
father, she may opt to have her step father walk her down the
aisle. This is a newly emerging sight at weddings, and quite
touching.
Of course, if the bride loves both of the men and wants to
include them, there's nothing wrong with having both walk her
down the aisle. It honors her relationship with both men and
lets them have the chance to hold her arm.
This also holds true for the groom. He can choose to escort both
a step mother and his biological mother down the aisle at the
beginning is she should choose to. Or the best man can do so, as
is tradition.
If the father has passed on, the bride may opt to have an older
brother or an uncle walk her down the aisle. Likewise, if the
mother of the groom has passed, then a sister or an aunt may
want to walk with him.
Dealing with difficulties
While this all seems like a loving and simple solution to
include everyone in the wedding, some parents may still have
issues with their ex-spouses. And this can lead to bitter
feelings about your choice in who walks who down the aisle.
Should you fight for what you want? That's entirely up to you.
If walking with both fathers makes you happy, then you should do
that--even if the opposite wives are not pleased for whatever
reason.
If you feel that it may cause more trouble than it is worth,
then you may opt to stick with tradition. Just be sure to
include your step father in some other part of the wedding so he
doesn't feel left out because of biological status.
In the end, remember that it's your day and your decision.