Think Relationship Romance
The best thing about romance in a relationship is that it is
shared. While one partner may initiate it, both end up enjoying
any romantic effort. Romance is a relationship activity and
cannot work if both partners aren't participants. When you
decide that romance is the way you want to go in order to
improve your marriage or even work towards having an outstanding
marriage, start planning your romance in advance with both you
and your partner in mind.
Even if you are giving a gift to your partner, keep in mind how
it will affect you when you present it to him or her. Some gifts
are actually meant for both of you although it is presented to
only one partner (ex. Massage oil). Both of you must enjoy the
romance in order for it to be effective in your relationship.
While being romantic often draws to mind gifts and planning
outings together, you don't have to spend money in order to be
romantic! You can plan a day where you are completely at your
spouse's disposal. Devote yourself entirely to your spouse for
an entire day. He or she can ask you to do chores, rub their
feet, give them a massage, watch a movie you normally wouldn't
watch together or try an interest of his or hers that you
haven't tried. Your spouse may also decide that you are best put
to use in the bedroom!
When you want to do something extra special, take your spouse on
a local 'honeymoon' trip! Find a local hotel that has a
honeymoon suite and book it for one night. Do it up right and
make sure it is stocked with champagne, strawberries and whipped
cream. Have flowers and your song available to play in your
room. For her, have new lingerie laid out on the bed. For him,
have new lingerie laid out on the bed. For an extra special
twist, pack a bag for your spouse, hire a sitter if necessary
and tell him or her that you're going out for the evening.
Blindfold your spouse and lead him or her to your honeymoon
suite.
Find an affordable card shop or see if your local greeting card
store offers any type of multiple card purchase discounts. Buy
as many cards for your spouse as you can. Store the cards and
send them to your spouse intermittently. You can choose to send
them every few months, every month, every week, each day or
every waking hour!
Take the time to create your own loving edible baked goods for
your spouse! Make heart shaped cookies, a heart shaped cake or
make your own heart shaped chocolates. Find a heart shaped bowl,
pop popcorn to serve in the bowl and spend the entire day
watching romantic movies together.
You can take any or all of these ideas and use them for special
occasions or throughout the year. It doesn't really matter when
or how you do something romantic as long as you do it together.