The Readied Romantic
Although being creative might be something you don't think you
have within you, you simply haven't found a way to tap into your
creative potential. While you may not know where your particular
strengths lie, you can discover what works for you and your
spouse as well as what doesn't work with a few simple ideas to
get you started.
Take a large, empty jar and use it so that each time you come up
with what you think are spectacularly romantic ideas, you can
write them down on small separate pieces of paper. Keep writing
your ideas down until the jar is full. If your spouse wants to
participate in this with you, he or she can add romantic ideas
as well. About once each week, one of you must take an idea from
the jar (no peeking) and they have to follow through on their
selection within the following week.
Both spouses should be able to add to the jar at any time. If
one spouse or both have a difficult time coming up with romantic
ideas on their own, they can think about some of the most
romantic movies that they've ever seen in order to try and come
up with ideas. Another way to get ideas is to watch soap operas!
While most of the story lines aren't something anyone wants to
have to experience in their lifetime, some of the lines and
gestures are incredibly romantic! You can also read a romance
novel! They are chock full of what most women fantasize about
with a man and you will have a unique perspective in being able
to provide it to your spouse. If still come up empty, you check
your local library or book store and take a look at the hundreds
of books filled with all sorts of original romantic ideas.
Do you love a challenge? Create your own original search-a-word
or crossword puzzle that contains important events in your lives
or things that have special meaning to both of you. You can
include things like where you went on your honeymoon, where he
or she proposed, private jokes, pet names, favorite songs,
favorite time of day or anything else that makes you think of
your spouse.
When you feel that your creativity just won't cut it and you
want to present your spouse with a gift, it might not be an
opportune time to get in the car, go to the store and take the
time to pick up something special. Instead of always waiting
until you are approaching a special occasion or you simply need
something 'last minute', why not start picking up little gifts
here and there for your spouse and put them away in a secret
hiding place to be used later on? You can also save money by
shopping for your spouse this way when you buy items on sale or
discounted, when you buy in bulk or simply when you see
something you are sure your spouse would love. You will always
be prepared for any type of special occasion or no particular
occasion at all!