Struggle of the Sexes
While most people acknowledge that opposites attract, they are
also quick to point out the men and women generally tend to be
different in a number of ways. Although this is basically true,
it isn't an excuse to not have romance in your marriage. Men and
women can both be romantic with their spouse once they
understand the likes and dislikes of their partner. Sometimes it
just takes a little patience, attention and effort on your part
to get things going and to make romance happen.
For the husbands that have no idea where to begin with their
wives, you can always start with a day at the mall. Prepare a
shopping list of specific items or stores you know she either
frequents or would enjoy receiving a gift from. If you still
feel quite clueless as to what you buy your wife, here is your
own shopping list guaranteed to thrill her. Begin at a bath shop
and buy her lotion, bath gel and/or powder. Next, visit a
lingerie shop. If you are unsure of your wife's size, ask the
employees for help. There is no need to be embarrassed and they
are more than happy to assist you in your search. Locate a fine
and reputable jewelry store.
If you are unsure of your wife's ring size, stick to a
necklace, bracelet or brooch. Stop by a liquor store and pick up
her favorite bottle of wine or a bottle of champagne for no
particular reason other than to celebrate each other. Your next
stop should be the flower shop where you can pick out her
favorite flowers or a simple rose. Finally, you will need a card
to accompany all of your purchases. If you prefer, you can make
your own card or write a personalized love letter instead. Make
sure that all of her gifts are wrapped separately and enjoy the
pleasure you both will get from your efforts!
Now for the wives who want to do something extra special and
romantic for their husbands. You can either buy him a romantic
card or write him a personal love letter before sealing the
envelope and sealing it with a kiss. Make sure you use the
reddest lipstick you have for the kiss and then mail it to him.
For a variation on this idea, spray a card or note with your
perfume. Try and do your best not to become a choice between him
and his passions, whether they are sports, computers, etc.
He was once a huge fan of yours and you simply have to remind
him of that at make it worth his while to be your fan once
again. If you have trouble understanding your man in your
relationship, take the time to discover what it is about him
that makes him who he is. Robert Bly and Rachel Snyder have some
wonderfully entertaining and insightful books to assist you on
this subject. Not only will you be able to understand your
husband a little better, but you will be able to increase your
intimacy level and trust as a result of your efforts.