Relationship Rationalizations
So many relationships come in second, third or even worse to the
many distractions in our daily lives. Unfortunately, these
distractions are allowing too many marriages to end in divorce
or a couple simply co-exists for years longing for happiness and
fulfillment. It simply doesn't have to be this way. It's time to
take a look at what is really important and what will matter in
the long run. Once your job or other commitments are gone, all
you'll have left is an empty marriage or an empty home to face
every day. It's time to stop making excuses and find the time to
romance your spouse starting today.
Some women truly believe that some men aren't genetically
capable of being romantic. No matter how masculine a guy is, he
is capable of romance! It is just another excuse for people to
let their relationship slide. Romance leads to happy
relationships while relationships without romance lead to
loneliness or even worse. All men are and can show that they are
romantic. So can all women.
When you envision romance, you probably think about a great deal
of materialistic exchanging happening between you and your
spouse. Romance isn't about what is tangible or how much you
spent. Romance is about the thought and intention behind every
gesture you make. As long as the thought is behind your efforts,
you will have romance. Improving your relationship with better
companionship, sex and attention is very romantic alone!
If you've decided to be romantic, you have one chance to forget
about your commitment. Just one chance and then that's it. From
then on it's an excuse- a bad one at that- and you will do more
damage to your relationship than you thought possible from
neglecting your spouse. If you are constantly forgetting, you
are displaying behavior that can only be interpreted as your
spouse simply isn't that important to you.
Procrastination is the archenemy of romance. While your career
is and should be important, your spouse should be more
important. Imagine sitting on your front porch in your golden
years while looking back at everything you've accomplished as
well as any regrets you might have. Do you really thing you'll
be wishing you had spent more time working?
For the belligerent spouses out there, its most likely crossed
you mind that you don't have to be romantic because you
shouldn't have to prove your love to your spouse. Being married
and bringing romance into your relationship isn't about proving
anything. Romance with your spouse is about showing how much you
appreciate and love him or her.
Don't drag your heels when it comes to being romantic. Putting
it off can become just as bad as never ever doing it at all and
the habit is quite easy to fall into. Consider the fact that you
don't know how long you and your spouse will be lucky enough to
have each other. Whether he or she will become deceased or they
leave your procrastinating butt, you simply don't have the time
to put off making your marriage and incredibly loving and
romantic partnership.