s Your Marriage a Companionship or a Love Affair?
Every marriage is just like any relationship. They have their
ups and downs, agreements and disagreements and good days and
bad days. When you put two people from different backgrounds
with different ideas, feelings and expectations together, you
simply can't expect everything to be wonderful all of the time!
While some marriages have very serious problems that can only be
solved by intense focus and even therapy, most marriages simply
become 'stale' or uninteresting.
It is important to reflect on exactly what is causing any
conflict or uneasiness in a marriage before acting on it. In a
great many marriages, the excitement and 'take my breath away'
feelings are fading or they are even gone. It doesn't mean that
the love is gone. Love sometimes needs a little stimulation in
order to revisit and maintain the feelings we all crave and
yearn for. That stimulation is called 'romance.'
Many people mistake a marriage that seems to be ordinary or
unexceptional as lacking love. It simply isn't the case! Most
marriages do not lack love, but they do lack romance! Love is
easy and peaceful, while romance is what makes a relationship
hot and arousing.
Every single person on earth in any type of relationship desires
passion and romance in his or her life. Unfortunately, there are
a few things about romance most people don't understand. The
most common problem in creating romance in a relationship is
that people simply don't know how to do it! Other times, people
are fixed in cultural classifications and their partners are
unable to appreciate them for their own special and unique
qualities. Ultimately, some people have simply given up on their
search for romance.
In a time where everything is convenient and available almost at
the touch of a button, the effort of romance seems as if it
takes a good deal of effort. It is very possible to take some
old-fashioned romantic ideas and make them work in a modern
world while maintaining the genuine intention behind each
thought and act. Romance today can be filled with unique ideas,
creativity and passion. Romance is simply the way you express
your love for another person. It is vital to keeping love fresh,
exciting and alive. Without romance, love can become tiresome
and even worse.
The expression of love through romance keeps it alive, fun and
worthwhile. Romance is only true, though, when carried out with
no ulterior motives. The only reason romance should be initiated
is in an attempt to show love and appreciation. Romance with
true intentions is when you want to show your mate that you are
thinking about them and they matter enough to make the effort to
bring your love to life through action.
Romance is more like an artistic creation as opposed to an exact
science. Those who tend to feel competitive in almost everything
they do will need to check that attitude at the door when
initiating romance. Love and romance should not be considered a
contest that should be outdone time and again. It should be
considered a cooperative activity. While love and romance take
two in order to work, you can be extremely romantic while still
keeping your individuality. Love and romance make perfect
partners and can make you and your partner 'perfect' companions
as well!