Give, Give, Give
Everyone knows the old sayings about marriage and how everything
requires compromise and each partner should give 50%. Well- they
are wrong! Everything should not require compromise or
everything will end up turning into a business negotiation and
someone will feel that they gave up more than they should have.
This leads to resentment and it doesn't have to.
While there are certain situations that may be important enough
to you or your spouse to make an issue of that will require
compromise, it's time to consider making sacrifices here and
there for your spouse. He or she will, of course, be surprised
when you do so, but they will also begin doing the same for you
out of appreciation for you and your actions.
Each partner in a marriage should not be giving 50% all of the
time. If you are only giving 50%, you are only doing have as
well as you could be doing. If you and your spouse are both
giving 100%, you can't go wrong. You are both giving your
marriage all of your dedication and effort. If you and your
spouse are planning on only meeting each other halfway, you will
only be successful half of the time (or maybe even less).
Romance isn't really romance when it's convenient for you or
your spouse. Your romantic gestures on romantic days like
Valentine's Day or birthdays can only be considered romantic if
you go out of your way to be romantic throughout the rest of the
year. You don't have to spend money in order to be romantic,
either. Begin offering to stop on the way home in case he or she
would like you to pick something up. Never allow anyone else to
greet him or her at the airport no matter what time the flight
arrives. Start getting up and taking care of housework or even
the kids before he or she has the chance to ask you to.
Instead of thinking about being romantic, simply do it. Make the
decision that you are going to fall in love with your spouse and
simply do it. If you spend too much time thinking about it, you
will find yourself the victim of self-sabotage. You will focus
on faults, hurts and other unimportant distractions that will
stop you from reaching your goal. You don't need books or a
professional to help you with this process. You simply make the
decision and you will DO it.
In order to become more romantic by just doing it, you will find
that listening is your best tool. By listening to him or her
with more that just your ears but with your eyes and heart as
well, you will see that there is so much more to discover about
the incredible person you are committed to. Not only will you
find that they are offering all sorts of clue and tips on how to
be more romantic in your relationship, you will also find
opportunities to offer support and fall in love all over again.