Throw Away Your Book On Sex Tips!
It's easy to fall into a routine that allows your family and
marriage to run smoothly. Routines are good and help you to meet
the many demands on your life. However, it's important that your
"routine" includes intimate time with your spouse.
Intimate time doesn't just equate to sex, it equates to intimate
discussions about where your life is now, where you hope it will
go and a few dreams thrown in along the way. Ongoing intimacy
keeps a relationship strong and improves the physical aspect of
your marriage as well.
Intimate times means there are no other demands to distract you
from your sweetheart. If you have kids, it means you need to get
out at least once a week on a date so you can have these types
of conversations.
While you're talking about getting away, don't forget to have an
annual get away for a weekend. These marital retreats allow you
to be more relaxed and not worry about child invaders in the
bedroom, telephone calls, spilled milk, or a myriad of other
distractions that stop a romantic moment cold.
Intimate time includes time relaxing together on walks, drives,
picnics etc. These times are also a good time to include the
rest of the family. It's important to have meaningful family
time together and for your children to see a healthy, intimate
relationship.
After all, if they don't learn about appropriate intimate
relationships from your example, they will have to look to the
world. Do you really want them to model the examples they will
find on TV, in movies or just next door? These examples may
often be an undesirable or poor model of a healthy relationship.
Although you may hear the groans of..."gross"..."get a
room"...or "not again!" nothing warms a child's heart more than
seeing their parents in love and showing that love. So hold
hands, cuddle when you watch the TV, let the kids see a kiss
good bye, hello, or just because.
You will find as you have intimate conversations and show
tenderness in public, your intimacy in private will be far more
fulfilling as well.
So throw out the sex tips book and use the time instead to
rediscover the joys of emotional and physical intimacy with your
sweetheart. Then you'll realize that your marriage wasn't
needing a few new moves, it was needing true intimacy.