3 Little Mistakes That Could Cost You Your Marriage
Just because you and your spouse pledged to love and nurture
each other through all your days, doesn't guarantee that your
marriage will remain vital and strong. Here are 3 little
mistakes that left unchecked could cost you your marriage.
Little Mistake #1 Not Hearing Your Spouses Plea For Attention
With many responsibilities pulling at us each day, it is easy to
fall into a routine of life that may not include nurturing our
relationship with our spouse.
As we fulfill our responsibilities at work, in our community and
with our children, we may not always save some of our time and
energy for our spouse. When this happens, our spouse will
usually make a subtle plea to be notice and nurtured. If this
subtle plea goes unnoticed, they may even make a more direct
plea for attention.
If we assume that they know we love them and continue to spend
our time and energies on these other efforts, we are sending a
very clear message that these other responsibilities are more
important to us than our relationship with our spouse.
It's critical to let our spouse now on a daily basis that we
value our life and relationship with them.
It can be as simple as making sure they always get a passionate
kiss on their way in and out of the house with a heart felt "I
love you". However, it will also require making a conscious
effort to include them in our busy life.
After all, our job, community efforts and children will only be
a part of our life for a defined period of time, whereas our
spouse will be with us for a life-time. Keep your priorities in
order, and you will go far in avoiding "Little Mistake #1."
Little Mistake #2 Sharing Intimate, Personal Information With
Someone Other Than Our Spouse
In many cases, the first step down the path of infidelity starts
with individuals sharing intimate personal information with
someone other than our spouse on a regular basis.
Either party could mistake this for feelings of intimacy, and
secrecy only encourages this intimacy to grow. Personal,
intimate discussions should be reserved for our spouse, it is
only there that we will receive the best counsel from someone
who deeply loves us and has our best interests as the heart of
their desires.
Little Mistake #3 Harboring Ill Feelings About Your Spouse
There is nothing wrong with having less than loving feelings
about your spouse when you've had a major disagreement. However,
there is something wrong with harboring those ill feelings to
the point of harming your relationship.
If these feelings are fed, they will grow into being critical
about every aspect of our spouses imperfections. Following those
times of disagreement, help yourself to calm down by reminding
yourself of your spouse's many positive traits and you'll be
surprised at how easily those loving feelings return.
By avoiding these "3 Little Mistakes", your marriage can remain
strong and vital for a lifetime.