Relationship Crisis: 6 Reasons to Get Physically Fit
Relationship crises (break-up, affair, huge conflict, children
problems) demand tremendous energy and often throw our lives off
a healthy track - which further perpetuates our inability to
respond in a healthy way to the crisis.
Don't forget your body while you wrestle with a relationship or
marital crisis.
It is easy to let yourself go. It is easy to postpone - I will
start tomorrow - your walking, running or workout. Your
preoccupation with the other person floods your life, leaving
little room for anything else. Or, you find yourself so
overwrought that it seems impossible to "talk yourself" into
getting started.
But, exercise and nutrition are powerful tools to help yourself
at this point. Here are 6 reasons why:
1. Exercise and attention to your nutrition shift your focus to
you. Exclusive focus on the other person atrophies your spirit,
your energy, productivity, your healthy emotions and your body.
You fade. You diminish. You become less than you truly are. So
much of my work with others is helping them begin to think about
themselves and take action for themselves. This is a major move.
And it can begin by focusing on your body. It is the best, most
practical place to begin. Your body is basic. It is a huge part
of you. Begin paying attention to it.
2. Focusing on the body, using it, stimulating it, making it
stretch and sweat is a great way to reduce stress. I'm not an
expert here, but I understand it kicks in healthy body chemicals
and cleanses some of the toxins - calming your mind, heart and
soul.
3. Your confidence grows as you begin to manage your body and
see changes in its endurance, strength and beauty. You begin to
think better thoughts about yourself. Self-care can result in a
minor miracle in terms of your perception of yourself.
4. You will begin to think of yourself as more desirable and
sexy. Your sense of sexiness may be at risk. It may be on the
line. It may be called into question. Doubts abound. It is a
complicated and powerful issue in our culture. (Watch a few
commercials on TV.) Exercise and physical health cuts through
the doubts. Being physically healthy is sexy. You feel more
sexual and you become more desirable.
5. Physical fitness is one of the first steps to becoming highly
attractive and exerting your personal power. Once you believe
and act attractive, the power of the relationship or marital
crisis will lessen in your life. It actually might seem rather
juvenile. Yes, there is more to attractiveness than looking
great. But, we begin by honing our body, working it and caring
for it. This builds the foundation for other forms of
attractiveness and personal power.
6. You assume control. You may feel, as a result of the
relationship crisis in your life, that you have little control
or influence. It seems to become a waiting game. You wait for
the other person. This other person or the situation seemingly
dictates your every move and thought. You feel paralyzed. When
you begin to move your body, you take control. Getting on a
great exercise, fitness program makes you the master of that
part of your life. You are in control. That feels good. That is
good.
Beginning an exercise/fitness program in the midst of a
relationship crisis is easier said than done. Usually we need
support, encouragement or some sort of structure to get us
moving. We have good intentions, but the follow through is
lacking.
You have no further to look than online. There are great sites
on the web that help you get started, offer encouragement and
resources and keep you motivated and on track. Take advantage of
these resources.