"Marriage Is a Long Conversation!"
Leading German thinker and philosopher of the last century -
Friedrich Nietchze is the source to my knowledge of this wise
observation that "marriage is a long conversation". While
Nietchze generally has a bad reputation for his "superman
theories" and his "God is dead" maxim - this seems his BEST
philosophic observation about that grand ole human institution -
MARRIAGE. Over the past seven years at our Bi Men Network - so
many of our men have repeatedly conceded that they STILL HAVE
SOME GREAT CONVERSATIONS with their wives. When push comes to
shove many men acknowledge that their wives are in fact their
best friends. While women seem to make "best friends" far more
easily than most adult men - finding a "best friend" is all too
often a major problem for many grown men. As we all now KNOW -
romance fades and sex fades. Youth fades. Outer beauty fades.
Energy fades. Growing old is not for sissies as Bette Davis once
shrewdly noted! Do you still converse with your wife? or are you
like so many older couples just stuck at the dining table in
SILENCE or with the TV or radio on or both reading your sections
of the newspaper? How many couples do we see eating out in
public in COMPLETE SILENCE. And NOT the comfortable silence of
two old friends who are at peace with such quiet. Well if you
are STILL ENJOYING good conversation with your spouse - SHE IS A
KEEPER - and most definitely your best friend as well - or one
of your top three best friends. It has been said that after 30
we should have only THREE GOOD FRIENDS. Running in packs is for
nuns and for youth. IF you are still enjoying GOOD TALKS - GOOD
CONVERSATIONS - with your mate you are indeed very very lucky. I
often surmise that one reason MEN really enjoy GOLF as the grow
older is that it is a good cover for FINALLY conversing - really
solid TALK - with other men as they ride or walk across so many
holes of golf! WHILE walking or riding a golf cart together you
can talk without looking into one another's eyes. ALSO a good
reason why bar stools with liquid chat lubricants are a
conversational plus. Not having to look directly into another's
eyes! AND those amazing CONVERSATIONS on planes and trains with
strangers we never see again. EYES not in direct contact with
our chat partner! IF you ever find you need to have a heart to
heart talk with your spouse and are not good at direct eye
contact consider a long, private "Sunday" drive in the country
where you can quietly, intimately communicate with one another.
SO - if you have had a HISTORY of GOOD CONVERSATIONS with your
spouse - have at it again. OFTEN - it is just good to take that
nice long Sunday drive for the heck of it - even take a picnic
along formore fun. BUT even just the spontaneous SUNDAY DRIVE is
good. You can both relax and chat with your FOUR EYES on the
road ahead and just nicely CONVERSE with your mate! Give it a
try - after all - you owe that much to your best friend - right?
OK! Big Hugs & Best Wishes, Stewart (Mac) McCloud Founder &
President Bi-MEN NETWORK - www.bimen.org Now over 250,000 guys
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