Overcome Adultery: Ways To Make Your Marriage Whole Again
Unfortunately, cheating in marriage is becoming common place.
While the stats for infidelity are not concrete, many couples
therapists estimate close to 30 to 40 percent of wives and
nearly 50 percent of husbands cheat on their partners. (http://www
.msnbc.msn.com/id/5359395/site/newsweek) Now websites and
select greeting card companies promote the idea and make money
off of it. They encourage people to loose hope and to give up
without thinking twice about their reasons for marrying in the
first place.
Personally, I'm tired of seeing couples end their marriages, or
put them in jeopardy, when they can find ways to be happy in
their relationships. Whether or not you have experienced the
jealousy, pain, embarrassment and frustration of an affair
outside of your relationship, you can work towards healing your
marriage. I have addressed strategies to help you keep you and
your spouse together with an acrostic. The advice listed here
takes more that what any individual has in and of himself or
herself. If you know that both of you are willing to work at
saving your marriage, read on. Then print it out, and keep it in
a place to help you remember your plans for a happy marriage.
1. Find forgiveness in your heart, mind and soul 2. Accept that
your relationship won't be the same 3. Insist that it will get
better, though 4. Then take steps to get help 5. Hiring a
Relationship Coach or Counselor is a good idea
6. Have faith in God's plan for you, your spouse and your
marriage 7. Overcome the guilt, shame, blame and lame thinking
8. Pray that you and your partner can release bitterness, avoid
temptation, and find healing 9. Expect a rough time ahead, but
work towards a better relationship anyway
10. Lift your heads knowing that adultery doesn't have to rob
you of a healthy marriage 11. Offer support to each other even
if you don't feel like doing it 12. Voice your hurt, pain, past
and future expectations with each other 13. Enjoy the power of
unfailing, immovable, unconditional love by celebrating it each
day