Have you been Rejected Lately?
This is one of our greatest fears when asking someone out. Do
you fancy someone at work or the shop you visit? Sure we all
have been there before. We fancy that someone but Yet we do not
seem to have the courage to walk up to them and ask them
out.Why? I am sure you have heard the word "Rejection".
Rejection is a subject not far from our minds when we want to
ask out that sexy woman or man. Once we experience rejection we
are deprived of our self-confidence we feel small, worthless and
most of all insecure. The fact is, being rejected hurts no
matter who we are, we all have experienced it some stage in our
life.
The way we handle rejection is totally dependent on our
personality , the way we were brought up , our first
relationships with the opposite gender etc..
Not so long ago when I worked in the hospitality industry I
really fancied this one particular girl. She gave me all the
right signs that she feels the same. I did not really have the
courage to ask her out face to face as I thought she was out of
my league. Don't get me wrong I ain't an ugly looking bloke but
I just couldn't find the right time. Eventually when I did
didn't I make a total fool out of myself. As it turned out she
was married. I thought someone just crushed my heart or tore
them out of place. The way she said it with a smile she really
brushed me aside.and being in a public did not help either. I
could feel my face all red as usual. After that I felt a little
bit uneasy around her every time I didn't know how to behave
around her. I think she could sense it.
So being in the animal kingdom we cannot be attractive to all
and be liked by the opposite sex.Never feel ashamed if you are
rejected, move on.Rejection can come in many forms from a
partner being unfaithful , calling off a relationship and it can
come in small forms a date for instance who decides no to turn
up which tells you that either they do not want to take things
further or perhaps they were not interested in you after all.If
you are on the receiving end of a rejection, keep things in
perspective by relating to the many aspects of your life.
Once a rejection occurs we are hurt our minds start asking why?
What's wrong with me is it the way I look, my hair, my shape or
perhaps my personality. You ask yourself is it the way you acted
that caused the rejection? There are things you should try and
avoid.
The fear of rejection is an issue we all face or have faced in
our life's. It stops us approaching the person we really like.
Rejection is the curse, confidence is the cure.The way to fix
rejection is to balance with confidence building activities in
our lives think of positive thoughts and block any negative you
may have. If you think positively you will feel healthy and
confident. To be exact, the more confident you are, the better
you will be able to cope with some forms of rejection. You will
be able to shrug off any disappointments with confidence and
look forward to the positives.
Unfortunately I do not have all the answers to this complex part
of our lives.I am able though to tell you ,to be strong, be
positive, learn about yourself, get to know your weaknesses and
be confident.In time you will be able to brush rejection aside
and move along in your life with a smile because you know there
is someone out there for you.