Love's Most Overlooked Expression
I'll be the first to admit how totally clueless about women's
needs, love and relationships most of us men can be. Sometimes
women believe that we're just insensitive pigs, but the truth
often is, we're just clueless about what she's talking about.
Anyway, here's how I somehow got a clue about a few things; hope
this helps guys or women, the guy in your life!
A few weeks ago, one of my wife's sisters was getting married,
so all the others chipped in to help the best way they could. As
luck would have it, the task of preparing for the wedding shower
fell to my wife.
Now my schedule was already filled with various assignments but
anyhow, I decided to totally clear it for the day, and help her
as best as I could. Needless to say, she was totally surprised
because she knew I had a few important things to do that day. I
personally didn't mind because they were not urgent and I just
wanted to help her out.
When we got to the room, it was a total mess, so we set about
trying to clean it up before we decorated. As we mopped and
swept together, we chatted. As we decorated, hung balloons,
decorated tables and made floral arrangements together we
chatted and laughed endlessly. Late in the afternoon we left the
room tired, but happy.
After refreshing ourselves we headed back to the party, and even
though I was tired, I still helped with the entertainment, food
serving, and the clean-up afterwards.
When we finally left, we returned home totally exhausted and
immediately fell asleep.
Over the next few days, I noticed and incredible increase in
intimacy and passion. It was as if my wife was falling over
herself to please me. She was bubbly, excited and sex was "WOW".
She even found time to work on a few projects with me. I was
speechless to say the least.
When I couldn't understand it any further, I had to ask her
about what was happening. Here's what I learnt.
Love's New
Lesson - The importance of
people/things can be measured by how much time we invest in
them. As men we spend lots of time on our cars, our buddies, our
careers, our sports teams then when asked for our time by our
spouses, we're tired or too busy. No wonder the women in our
lives never believe us when we tell them "you are important to
me". Why should they believe us when we don't prove it by
investing time with them?
- The essence of love is not what we do or provide for the
other person, but how much we give of ourselves. This is sad
guys but most of us thought and believed that if there's food in
the house, roof overhead, bills paid, kids got what they wanted,
we've somehow done our manly duties. Then we get frustrated,
irritated and confused and scream "I don't understand my wife
and kids, I provide all they need, what more could they want.
Truth is, they want you! Your eyes, ears, time, presence,
attention; your time. Nothing - No-thing will ever take place of
that.
- Why is your time so important? Time is your most precious
asset. You can make more money, get more education, get more
jobs, but you can never make or get more time. Why do you think
your years on earth are measured as "life-time"? Because as time
is spent, so is your very life. When you give someone or
something your time, you are giving them a portion of your life
that you'll never get back.
Since your time is your life, don't you think it's the greatest
gift you can give someone?
Even though roses, diamonds and chocolates are often seen as
gifts of love, if you really love your kids and your wife like
you say you do, and if they truly are important to you, then
give them the most desired gift of love and your best
investment.
Invest Your Life - Invest Your Time