BRINGING IT ALL TOGETHER
Now that you know the ins and the outs of swinging, what do you
do next? If you've already talked with your partner and begun to
do your research (reading this book, for instance), then you're
well on your way to getting in to the world of swinging.
Let's go over the highlights of what we've already talked about:
Beginning With A Strong Relationship
Since swinging is not the standard relationship format (but I'm
hopeful), you might be filled with self-doubt about whether or
not something like this can work for you. You may have a lot of
preconceived notions as to how a relationship between partners
should exist.
But you're wondering if you could try something new.
You're not dissatisfied with your partner, but you feel like you
want to share yourself with someone else--with the knowledge of
your partner.
Having a strong relationship with open lines of communication is
the best way to begin a foray into swinging. If there are any
problems or concerns, they can be quickly addressed, rather than
turning into larger issues.
Talk with your partner about swinging to see what they think.
You might be surprised to find out that they are just as
interested as you are.
Make out a list of things that you could enjoy with another
person and see what your partner thinks. Finding Someone To
Swing With
Every city has the opportunity to find someone who is into
swinging. All it takes is an open eye and a little research. You
can start with the various Internet directories of swinging
clubs and associations, or you may just want to wander into your
local adult book shop for literature.
The online swinging community is growing and dating websites
have popped up to make the search safe and secure. You can meet
up with couples from all parts of the world, or search for some
that are closer to home.
Through e-mail and video chats, you can get to know someone
before you even reveal your names. In this way, you can be as
comfortable as possible before taking the plunge.
Pushing Off
And then comes the time when you are reading to get into the
nitty gritty of swinging.
Whether you choose soft or hard swinging at first, all that
matters is that you are up front about what you expect from your
experience and how you interact with the other couple (or
single, or couples, etc).
Touching another person or watching another couple pleasure each
other is arousing and liberating.
You can try sex toys and roleplaying to spice things up down the
road, remembering always to make sure that everyone is on board
with changes you make in your interactions.
Keep an open mind and you will not only increase your
self-confidence and sexual ability, but also realize that your
current relationship is incredibly strong and supportive.
By being able to indulge each other in your fantasies, you are
creating yet another way to communicate with one another in
order to make each other as happy as you can.
So that's all I have time for now, as I have to go out swinging!
So in the meantime - Happy Swinging!