First Date Conversation
On first dates conversation can be uncomfortably slow at times.
You don't know much about the person and you have no history
with them so it can be difficult to find things to talk about.
Add a little bit of nervousness and tension to the situation and
things are downright awkward.
This article will give you a few ideas to help you start great
conversations on a date with people that you may not know very
well. But first, it's important to understand a few things about
socializing on dates.
People like to talk about themselves! Most of us would rather
talk about our life than listen to someone else talk about
theirs. There is nothing wrong with that, it's just human
nature. With that in mind the conversation starters I give you
later in this article purposely focus the conversation on the
other person.
It's a good idea to keep all conversation positive--never bring
up negative things like death. It's also wise to avoid
controversial subjects like religion, politics, and abortion
until you get to know the person better.
Try desperately to keep away from all "canned" conversations
like, "So, what do you do?" or, "Where are you from?" This stuff
is important to know later on (maybe the second or third date)
but it makes you seem dull and unoriginal... not the kind of
image you want to portray on the first date.
Here are some good conversation starters that focus the
conversation on the other person:
"Have any pets?" This should start up a lively conversation
because people LOVE their pets and LOVE talking about them even
more. If they don't have any pets then just move on to something
else. Or, you could ask, "Really? Why not?"
"Where did you get that _______?" Ask them about a specific
piece of jewelry or clothing. This conversation starter works
particularly well with a really unique piece of jewelry or
clothing... something they might be interested in telling the
story behind.
"Have you ever ________?" Ask about something that you are
knowledgeable about or enjoy doing. This is a good way to find
out if you have common ground. If they do have that interest in
common with you then you will have plenty to talk about. If they
don't have that interest then just say, "Oh, I see." They will
ask, "Why do ask, have you?" Then answer honestly but don't brag
and don't go on about it for too long--just move onto something
else.
"Do you like sports?" Men AND women are passionate about sports
and all enthusiasts enjoy talking about them. Who knows, you
both may enjoy the same sport... why not buy tickets and go to a
game for your next date?
"Have you ever been to ________?" Ask them if they have ever
been to a local hotspot that you enjoy. Maybe it's a club,
restaurant, or amusement park. If they HAVEN'T been there then
this is a great way to get a second date... "You haven't been?
You don't know what you are missing out on, we have GOT to
go..." All of these conversation starters are centered around
topics that have the potential for interesting and exciting
conversation