ROLEPLAYING: PART ONE
After you've been swinging for a while, or even just in a
relationship for a while, you might feel, well, bored with the
way things are going. And that's not to say that the
relationship is at fault, but things that are repeated can
become common place.
What can you do to avoid this?
Why Roleplaying Might Be The Perfect Part For You
When you try something different, you might feel a little
hesitant. And for whatever reason, roleplaying seems to be the
one that many couples turn a nose to.
But let's look at it differently.
If you've ever dresses up for Halloween or just gotten 'dolled
up' for someone, then you've put a toe into the waters of
roleplaying.
Stepping into the role of another person can inspire confidence
in yourself and in your actions. Because you're not your
'normal' self, you might say things or do things that are out of
your comfort zone. And this is good.
When you're nervous, letting another persona help you out might
be a great way to break your tension.
Finding The Role For You
Now, I should say that many people aren't 'into' roleplaying, so
this is something else that you will need to discuss with your
partner or your group of swingers.
Of course, if you should find out that someone has a secret
fantasy (usually from their partner), then you may want to try
it out.
Think of this as a costume party of sorts. You get to be
whomever you want and you can leave your old self and
insecurities behind.
You can get ideas from websites or adult video stores. Honestly,
most adult flavoured videos involve some sort of
roleplaying--because there can't be that many lost mechanics out
there!
Find something that you've always wanted to be--a French maid? A
police officer?
Cheerleaders or doctors always work well too. It's amazing how
many cheers never get finished, and how many pelvic exams are in
dire need of being completed.
Playing The Part
And don't think that you have to be an Oscar winning performer
in order to try out roleplaying. This isn't about getting it
perfect; it's about trying to please someone else as well as
yourself.
It's amazing what a costume can do for the libido.
Imagine what the characteristics of the part you are playing
would be? Are you tough? Are you innocent? Find what makes this
role different from you in real life and over-exaggerate it.
You may also discuss with another couple, the idea of
incorporating everyone into the roleplaying. Is there some sort
of scenario that could involve everyone? Perhaps the women can
be 'stranded' at the side of the road and need to be helped by
some kind, sexually attractive men.
Pretend that you're in a strip club and play the audience and
the strippers.
Heck, you don't even really need costumes, just a little
imagination.
We'll talk about roleplaying a little more in depth in a moment,
but for now, start thinking up ways that you can become someone
else for an evening. Think of it as an adult version of
Halloween--sweets and all.