9 Half Dating Tips
Top 9.5 Online Dating Tips
Millions of men and women have signed up at online dating sites.
The research indicates that there are few dates and even fewer
marriages that take place as a result of meeting people online.
Some of the responsibility for the poor results lies with the
customers themselves. Too many men and women fill out their
profiles and then sit back and wait. They expect the computers
to match them with their perfect mates. And they really don't
want to actually work at finding their life partners.
Are you living in a fairy tale? Some of the reluctance to take
charge of your love life is the result of what I call the Fairy
Tale Trap. This dating trap is an entrenched part of our
culture. The Fairy Tale part of the trap says that we don't have
to take responsibility for finding our soul mates. Indeed, our
soul mate will just appear because...it's fate. Someday, our
prince will come, if we just wait long enough.
Well, it doesn't work that way. The perfect employer doesn't
call you with a job. The perfect car doesn't drive itself into
your garage. And, your perfect partner won't magically appear
someday to take you away from all of this. You have to get out
there and look. Online dating services can help you look. They
help you screen more prospects more quickly. But they won't find
a mate for you. You have to still put in the effort. If you want
the best results from your online search, try these proven tips:
Secrets to online dating success 1. Know yourself; be yourself.
No phoniness. Be honest and demand honesty from dates. Or else.
First email, first date, doesn't matter. At the first sign of
untruthfulness, walk away.
2. Post several photos - with your clothes on. You catch fish
according to the type of bait you use. What do you think you are
attracting with racy photos of your T&A? If you want someone to
love you for yourself, post photos of yourself, not your body
parts.
3. Write a paragraph or two about yourself that no one else
could write. Be unique. Most women fall within a fairly narrow
range for height, weight, hair color, eye color. They are all
"nice", "attractive", fun, good sense of humor. Tell the world
something it doesn't know and can't get from a standard
fill-in-the-blank profile.
4. Contact lots of people and answer lots of contacts. It's a
numbers game. Besides, if you corresponded with only one man how
would you know he's the best one for you? You never had a
choice, did you?
5. Online dating safety tips 1) No personal email addresses. Get
a new free one from hotmail, yahoo, or gmail. 2) Do not give out
your personal phone or cell phone numbers. Instead, visit
http://www.freeaudioconferencing.com and get a free bridgeline.
This is a private telephone number that exists in a computer far
away. You give this number to a possible date, and tell him to
call that number at a specific time. Then, both of you call that
number at the agreed time to connect over the phone. It's
anonymous and untraceable.
6. Most of your contacts and replies won't result in a match or
a date, let alone a relationship. So what? Do you always watch
the TV channel that comes up when you turn on the TV? You browse
the channels, so browse your prospects. The more you do this,
the better you will get at it. When you finally meet Mr.
Wonderful you'll be very good at screening and evaluating
possible dates.
6a. On a scale of 1-10, you'll want to date 10's of course.
You'd be smart not to waste your time on 1's. But, how about
those 4-5-6's? Personality can make up for a less than perfect
face or body. Besides, the way to get good at something is
practice, practice, practice. If you want to be comfortable at
dating, conversation, and screening your dates, date a lot of
people. Consider it good practice. Whenever Mr. Right does come
along, you'll be practiced, you'll be polished, and you'll be
ready.
7. Don't think an online dating site will have your perfect date
today, this month, even this year. People come and go a lot at
these dating sites. Expecting to meet someone good on the first
search is like expecting to meet your mate the first time you
visit the grocery, the video store, or the coffee shop. The most
useful tip is: be patient. You may spend months before someone
compatible logs in and sees your profile.
8. Don't expect only one online dating site to have your perfect
mate. Mr. Wonderful may have joined another dating site instead.
If you're serious about finding a life partner, join the top 3-4
dating sites and visit them at least weekly to see if Mr. W has
signed up yet.
9. And the most important of all online dating tips: Don't
expect ANY dating site to find you a man. Dating sites can be
helpful, but they are just one venue for meeting possible dates
and mates. If you were looking for that perfect outfit you
wouldn't keep shopping in just one store. Use all the resources
available to you to find your perfect partner.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Dr. Alan Stafford,
Relationship Results Coach I help Singles and Couples build
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