ARE CLUBS THE PLACE TO PLAY?
Anywhere that you feel safe and secure is a great place to
swing, in my opinion. And clubs can be that great place.
Not only are you in an environment that is totally supportive,
but there aren't games to be played or expectations. You come
when you're ready to come, and you play as much as you want.
Are These Places Dirty?
Unlike a lot of the sex clubs, swingers clubs are filled with
clean cut, professional men and women. The general age of
members is anywhere from late twenties to mid-fifties, so you're
sure to feel at home with one of the age groups.
Many of the swingers clubs have dress codes that are strictly
enforced. Of course, they may have theme nights from time to
time, but most of the time, it's completely option.
But a lot of fun.
And as for the 'dirty' part, it depends on what you're using for
a definition. If you're talking about breaching sexual borders
and allowing couples to mingle, then yes, they are 'dirty.' If
you're talking about the physical presence of dirt, then no,
these are high-class establishments that have to follow health
code rules, just like everyone else.
Are The Clubs Safe To Go To?
Swingers clubs employ a staff of security to help you in case
you should feel unsafe or uncomfortable.
The staff at most of the clubs are easily available if you have
any questions, plus many require you to call ahead to have an
on-phone interview. This ensures that you are a couple that will
fit in with everyone else, as well as follow the rules that you
are given.
If you do get turned down for a club, then you may want to
revaluate why you want to try swinging in the first place. Or
try another club.
Where Can I Find Swingers Clubs?
Word of mouth and local advertising are the best ways to find
local swinger events. In some cities, there may not be clubs
that are listed, but through the local adult video store, you
may be able to find listings for swinger parties.
Be very discerning about which events you choose to go to. Call
the coordinator and ask a lot of questions. If they hesitate or
refuse to answer things, then you may want to avoid their party.
Do I Have To Do Anything?
This is the biggest question of swingers clubs--do you have to
participate in the sexual fun?
Of course not.
Many couples go to meet other couples at a later time. Or some
other folks just go to watch couples mingle with one another.
The level of your participation is up to your comfort level.
Most clubs have polices about not pressuring other members, so
you can feel at ease from the time you walk in to the time that
you leave.
A swingers club can be a great way to celebrate your sexual
identity without having to 'do' anything. Many couples find that
this is the perfect method to sample the swinging life to see if
it's something that will work for them.
And without names, you can be anonymous as well.