SETTING THE SCENE

You've set a date, cleared out the kids (if you have some), and you're getting ready for an evening of swinging. Maybe you've decided to meet at your place for the fun. But what can you do to get ready? Get Rid Of All The Distractions There's nothing worse than the phone ringing or a knock at the door when you're in the middle of enjoying some private time. So when you're starting to swing, you want to make sure that these things do not happen. Turn off the phone, hide the cellular phones, turn the lights down in the front of the house, and dim the lights throughout the house. This is your time and your time only. If you're concerned about your children, then set up some way for someone to get a hold of you--but only in an extreme emergency. If you have pets, you will want to put them into a separate room for the evening, making sure that all of their needs have already be attended to. Mood Enhancers When it comes to seduction, you can never do too much. Dim the lights and set candles all around. If you're a nervous person, then make sure that all of the candles are in fireproof containers so that they can burn out on their own, in case the festivities move elsewhere. Turn on quiet music--something calm and instrumental is best. You may want to ask the other couple what they like to make is comfortable. Make sure the house smells good. This sounds silly, but a little spray of sandalwood or rose freshener can make the scene all the more inviting. Perhaps the group has decided that they want to watch some erotic movies in order to get in the mood. Have television ready, as well as comfortable areas to sit. Comfort Counts If you're getting ready for an evening that may take place in more than one room, you will want to make sure that you are prepared. Have protection available in any of the open rooms, as well as pillows, blankets, and any other previously discussed accoutrements. You don't want to have to stop anything in order to get up and get something. At the very least, tell the other couple where to find things, should they need them. Getting Everyone Involved Before the evening begins, you should discuss among the groups things that everyone wants to have on hand. You may also plan on certain people bringing certain things in order to involve everyone in some way. Perhaps someone can bring fruits to nibble on throughout the night, or another can bring massage oils. If everyone has something that they recognize there, then it can make for a more pleasant evening. The one thing that you do not want to rely on for someone else to bring is protection of the sexual sort. Of course, you will probably feel very trusting of the other couple, and they will most likely bring what is asked.