FINDING SOMEONE TO PLAY WITH

Now that you've set up the perfect online profile and put away the camera, what do you do now? Do you just sit back and wait for others to find you, or do you go out and look for other fun swingers? I guess that's up to you for the most part, but in my opinion, why wait when you can find some action now? Narrowing The Field If there was ever any doubt that swinging wasn't popular, then the number of profiles on swinger dating websites should be the definitive way to stop that argument. When you choose one of the bigger swinger dating sites, you can find hundreds and thousands of available and ready-to-go swingers. It's overwhelming, really. Thankfully, many of the sites have realized this and decided to do something about it. They've installed software on their sites that can help you find someone who matches your interests. Many times you'll be asked a series of questions when you're writing your profile, and that will help to determine potential couples. They might be questions as to your personal preferences in the couple arrangement (2 males and a female, 2 females and a male, two couples, etc.). It's kind of like when you buy a book, there's a list of books that other similar buyers have picked up. Same thing, just with personal profiles. Now, this isn't to say that this method isn't without flaws, because it does have them. If the other couple isn't truthful, then you can be matched up with someone that just isn't compatible. But if the site doesn't have the ability to guide you to potential couples, then you're going to have to do it on your own. Start off with a list of general things that you're looking for, ranked from most important to least important. And start looking at each profile to see what you can find. They are grouped in many cases, so you don't have to look through everyone, but it will take more time this way. Someone Contacted You When you see that message waiting for you, the anticipation begins. Will this couple be the 'one'? Start by talking to them about what you're looking for--no need to beat around the bush. Get to know each other's desires and figure out if you're compatible. If not, move on. There shouldn't be any games at this point. You need to be able to trust each other. And if you feel like anything is 'off' for some reason, then trust your instincts and end the communication. I advise not giving out any personal information until you're absolutely sure that you want to meet a particular couple. Stalking is a very real threat as are other con artists and dangerous folks. If you seem to be compatible, I suggest talking over e-mail for a while to see if you get along well. Then you can move onto video chats and real time chats. And if that goes well, then it's onto figuring out real life excursions.