FINDING SOMEONE TO PLAY WITH
Now that you've set up the perfect online profile and put away
the camera, what do you do now?
Do you just sit back and wait for others to find you, or do you
go out and look for other fun swingers? I guess that's up to you
for the most part, but in my opinion, why wait when you can find
some action now?
Narrowing The Field
If there was ever any doubt that swinging wasn't popular, then
the number of profiles on swinger dating websites should be the
definitive way to stop that argument.
When you choose one of the bigger swinger dating sites, you can
find hundreds and thousands of available and ready-to-go
swingers. It's overwhelming, really.
Thankfully, many of the sites have realized this and decided to
do something about it. They've installed software on their sites
that can help you find someone who matches your interests.
Many times you'll be asked a series of questions when you're
writing your profile, and that will help to determine potential
couples. They might be questions as to your personal preferences
in the couple arrangement (2 males and a female, 2 females and a
male, two couples, etc.).
It's kind of like when you buy a book, there's a list of books
that other similar buyers have picked up. Same thing, just with
personal profiles.
Now, this isn't to say that this method isn't without flaws,
because it does have them. If the other couple isn't truthful,
then you can be matched up with someone that just isn't
compatible.
But if the site doesn't have the ability to guide you to
potential couples, then you're going to have to do it on your
own. Start off with a list of general things that you're looking
for, ranked from most important to least important.
And start looking at each profile to see what you can find.
They are grouped in many cases, so you don't have to look
through everyone, but it will take more time this way.
Someone Contacted You
When you see that message waiting for you, the anticipation
begins. Will this couple be the 'one'?
Start by talking to them about what you're looking for--no need
to beat around the bush. Get to know each other's desires and
figure out if you're compatible. If not, move on.
There shouldn't be any games at this point. You need to be able
to trust each other. And if you feel like anything is 'off' for
some reason, then trust your instincts and end the communication.
I advise not giving out any personal information until you're
absolutely sure that you want to meet a particular couple.
Stalking is a very real threat as are other con artists and
dangerous folks.
If you seem to be compatible, I suggest talking over e-mail for
a while to see if you get along well. Then you can move onto
video chats and real time chats. And if that goes well, then
it's onto figuring out real life excursions.