HOT AND HARD SWINGING
If you've already been to the first base of swinging, then let's
go ahead and hit that home run. After weeks, maybe even months
of slow, soft swinging, you've gotten comfortable and you're
ready to go.
Have you and your partner talking about what's okay to do and
what isn't?
A Few Basic Rules
Each couple will be different in determining the rules of play
when hard swinging, but here are some things to keep in mind or
try for your selves.
Talk about your fantasies. Is your husband into watching two
women, or are you ready to see your husband pleasure someone
else? What do you really want to play out? Be honest when you
talk with your partner.
This isn't a bartering session; this is a time for you to lay
everything out on the table to make sure that you aren't hurting
the relationship that you already have.
One of the worst things that you can do is not talk about the
details ahead of time, and either feel pressured into doing
something that you aren't ready for, or watching your partner do
something that you aren't ready to see.
And talk with the other couple too. If you're uncomfortable
about fellatio or some other act, then say it.
You may even want to write out a sort of contract, and sign it.
Since you may not be in each other's sight, knowing exactly what
your partner will and will not be doing can set a beginner's
mind at ease.
Starting The Fun...
When you're in the room with your new playmate, you want to try
to make the scene comfortable. If you've talked ahead of time,
this won't be difficult.
You can start by talking or just moving closer to each other.
It's amazing what a sexy environment can do as well. Maybe
candles and incense can make for a sultry atmosphere, or maybe
you just want to get down to business.
Start with exploring their body. Touch and feel each inch. Make
compliments as you go, but don't talk about comparisons. This
moment is about the other person and making them feel special.
There will come a point when your bodies will figure out how to
move with each other. Keep the other's fantasies in mind.
Did they want you to try something in particular, or did they
want you to surprise them?
If at any point you are uncomfortable or need to stop the
festivities, then do so. Immediately.
This is not a game in the sense that someone wins and someone
loses. You are working together to overcome sexual boundaries
and fulfil fantasies. You both still have someone to go home
with.
And if you want to continue the swinging relationship, you have
to be able to trust each other completely.
At this point, if it's been agreed upon, go ahead and have sex
with the other person--careful to stay protected and safe. Savor
the feeling of release of orgasm as you lie in someone else's
arms.
Savor the satisfaction.