WIFE SWAPPING: CHOOSING THE PERFECT COUPLE
When it comes to finding someone that you feel comfortable with,
you usually take your time, right? Well, when it comes to wife
swapping, that same train of thought applies.
There are certain factors that you should consider and weigh
heavily as you choose someone to swing with:
Honesty
You need to find people that are going to be honest with you.
These are people that tell you what their needs are, what they
do not like, and what their fantasies are.
You want to see all of their cards before you play any games.
If you should catch them in a lie, then you will need to figure
out if they are someone that you want to spend your time with.
This is especially true when you are meeting someone online; as
you want to be sure that you are not in a dangerous situation.
One of the red flags for a con artist is someone whose story
changes as they talk with you. Perhaps they tell you where they
live and then suddenly, they mention living somewhere else.
My advice? Get as far away as possible when you run into a liar.
Open Communication
When you're being honest, that's great, but can you talk about
things as they arise? When wife swapping, there can be a lot of
complicated issues that need to be discussed.
These can include jealousy, new fantasies, and roleplaying
ideas, just as examples.
You need to be able to frankly talk about what you want and what
you don't want from your swinging experience. You're human and
your feelings may change on what you originally intended for the
relationship.
Being able to talk through these shifts is vital to maintaining
your swinging relationship.
If you feel uncomfortable in any way, take things slower. And if
they still do not improve, it may be time to move on.
Similar Fantasies
You don't have to share the same fantasies, but you may want to
look for couples that are interested in the same things. Whether
you're interested in roleplaying or bondage games, you want to
be able to share in these things.
On the other hand, you may want to keep particular fantasies for
your own relationship as a way to show your commitment to each
other.
Finding Matching Goals
Although you may not want to share every fantasy, perhaps you
are looking to overcome some issues that you have with
particular sexual acts.
If this is the case, then you may want to bring this up with
another couple to see if this is something that you can all
explore. For example, if you are a woman who is interested in
touching another woman, then you will want to see if this is
something that would be okay.
Of course, many men would jump at the idea of watching such a
scene, but the other woman must be comfortable as well.
Finding the right couple will take time and effort, but be
strict about things that are important to you and to a
relationship in general. You're sure to find someone that fits
the description of swinging ecstasy.