COUPLES SWAPPING AND JEALOUSY
Although you may never encounter this, couples swapping and
jealousy is an important topic to discuss. And with a few simple
discussions and plenty of honest communication, you can avoid
having any troubles.
Talking To Each Other
The main glue that holds any relationship together is
communication. Without the ability to talk, you won't be able to
sort out problems as they occur or prevent ones from happening.
And in terms of sharing sexual fantasies--well that will never
happen if you're too embarrassed or self-conscious.
A lot of people will blame the problem of non-communication on
the male in the relationship, but it's simply not true. When
couples don't talk, it's both of the partners' problems.
Actually, a lot of women remain quiet because they've learned to
not 'rock the boat' in terms of saying things that may be less
than favourable.
But this isn't the time to worry about being gentle, you need to
be honest.
Talk about your concerns and what MIGHT make you jealous before
you even get into a couples swapping relationship.
And If I Feel Jealous After Everything Has Begun?
This is also completely normal to go through when you've just
started couples swapping. Women especially are prone to feelings
of low self worth when put into 'competition' with another woman.
Of course, once she realizes that she's still number one to her
partner, her confidence will grow.
But until that time, you will want to set up regular talks about
how you're feeling in the swinging relationship. Is there
something that might help one of the partners feel more secure?
Many times couples can choose s signal or some sort of way to
show each other their devotion.
It can be something as simple as making sure to caress and touch
their partner before going off with another partner. You may
also decide that you want to reserve certain actions (kissing on
the lips, for example) for just the two of you.
This keeps that act a special moment reserved for your
commitment to each other.
Is Jealousy Healthy?
Surprisingly enough, a certain degree of jealousy is healthy for
a relationship because it naturally leads to a discussion of the
importance of commitment. And it can lead to each partner
revealing the depth of their love for each other.
Jealous can cause you to step back and revaluate your place in
your partnership. It can point out the strengths and uncover the
positive parts.
When it becomes unhealthy is when it's used as a tool against
the other person.
You don't want to try to make someone jealous as that can be
seen as some sort of test to a relationship. And that's not the
point of couples swapping. Your relationship should already be
strong--constantly challenging each other does not help.
Couples swapping does not need to include jealousy, but if it
should become an issue, take a breath and talk about it. It's
usually just a bump along the way, not a road block.