WHY TRY SWINGING?
My first reaction to this question is why not try swinging, but
let's talk about the real concerns of those that are just
starting out. If you're looking for outside reasons to try
swinging, then you may want to stop for a moment and consider
your own reasons. If you're looking to try something new with
your partner, then you've come to the right place.
If you're looking to live out your own fantasies without any
regard for the other people involved, then you might want to
reconsider.
What swinging can do for you
When you're in a stable relationship for a while, it's normal to
feel a sense of longing for something different. It isn't
because you love the other person less, but that you are just
wondering what the feel of another's skin would be like or how
other fantasies might play out. One of the ways to find out if
you're ready to try swinging is the manner in which you discuss
the idea with your partner. If you're having a difficult time
broaching the subject, then you may not be ready.
If you have open lines of communication and a genuine respect
for each other, then you won't necessarily have a hard time
talking to each other. Swinging has helped a lot of already
strong couples become even stronger. By sharing a new sexual
experience with another person with your partner's full
knowledge, you may find that you can talk more freely about
anything.
Confidence is another thing that's often reported after a
swinging experience. You and your partner can go off and have a
wonderful and satisfying adventure, but still come back to the
partner that you love and want to spend your time with.
Swinging can also show you about yourself and the things that
you are willing to try. Many women find that they are more about
relating to other women. Of course, men need to realize that
living out the fantasy of watching two women together is not
something that always happens.
So, settle down boys.
What swinging will not do for you
Swinging is not a cure for a shaky relationship. It might seem
like a great way to change up the relationship dynamics and
infuse life into your marriage. And it might for a while. But if
communication is an issue or feeling of jealousy, swinging can
not help. In fact, it may help to hasten the demise of your
relationship.
Swinging also does not guarantee that you will be able to
satisfy all of your fantasies. If you like to explore
humiliation or other demeaning acts, then you are not
necessarily in the right place. Much of the enjoyment of
swinging comes from being respective of another couple and
allowing them the opportunity to enjoy their fantasies as they
allow you yours.
Swinging is not for everyone. You may find that the fantasy is
not the same as real life, or that the fantasy was enough. Do a
little research before you dismiss it entirely, but realize that
'no' means 'no' and if your partner just isn't interested, then
you must oblige their wishes.