How to Meet Another Couple
So, you've decided that swinging is an option for you and your
partner. You've looked at the information online or pored over
books and done some research as a couple. What do you do now?
How do you meet another couple to explore swinging in an up
close and personal way?
Finding the perfect fit
Being honest with each other as a couple will help you to
determine what you want from your swinging experience. Are there
certain fantasies that you'd like to enjoy together or
separately?
Knowing exactly what you want will help to map out a lit of
things that you're looking for in another couple. Finding a
couple that shares these fantasies is the ideal, but finding a
couple that is open to trying new things will be too.
And what exactly are you as a couple open to outside of your own
fantasies? Swinging isn't just about you, so you want to make
sure that you're able to help another couple enjoy themselves as
well. Are there things that are important to you? If so, keep
these in mind when choosing another couple.
Where to go
Online swinger websites are the best way to hook up with other
swingers in and around your area. You can confidentially talk
with other interested couples to see if you're compatible. And
if not, you can discreetly move on.
Perhaps you want to try a swingers club. These can be found
through word of mouth or also through online resources. Going to
your local adult book store can also lead you to publications
about swinging.
Take your time to look at all of the possibilities in looking
for a swinging couple. And don't give out your personal
information until you're comfortable with them.
Now that you've met...
So now that you've found a couple, what do you do now? This is
especially confusing for those first-timers out there, but
there's no need to worry.
Talk with each other about a non-sexual meeting place so that
you can all get the chance to know each other a bit better. See
if you get along. If you've met in a swingers club, then you may
not have had a chance to see how you communicate.
Take this time to be honest about what you are expecting and
what you do not want from a swinging experience. Much like
meeting any new people, watching body language will help you to
see if things are going well, or if they aren't. And if you all
get along, then you can begin to talk about meeting up for a
more personal conversation. Or lack thereof.
Much like interviewing for a job, you want to look for another
couple whose interests match yours and with whom you can talk
openly about what is working and what isn't. This is no time to
be shy.
And if you feel that it isn't going to work out, then that's
okay too. There are plenty of other couples looking for people
just like you.