How to Write a Dynamite Personal Ad
Come just as you are to the online dating table. Placing an ad
is easy. But, placing a dynamite ad is an art. You only have one
chance to make a good first impression. Ahead you will learn to
outshine nearly all others.
The importance of photos and profile narratives and their
quality is paramount. Logically it follows that you will want to
place an ad about yourself which will excite the greatest
interest in your potential viewers. You must know your audience.
Important - Photo should have an easily visible (large view) of
you. Most personals photos are dark and look like they were
taken from far away. Closeness, that's the mood you want to
create in your audience.
Some of the key elements in your personals ad which you may not
have thought of, but will be judged by are;
Is he articulate? Is she original? Is she educated? Is he
charming? Is he interesting? Is she witty? Is she courteous? Is
he outgoing? Finally - Is he willing to put forth some effort in
his ad to win me?
What you write will tell who you are! As we have just seen it's
not just what you say about yourself and your desires that will
tell her about you. The composition itself will spell out who
you are. Better to put your best literary foot forward to make a
positive statement about just exactly who you are.
At this point let us address the men and then a little
alteration for the women will be in order. Ad techniques are
different for both genders. Men are not especially looking for
funny or good listeners, whereas women generally are.
For the Men
Let's begin by discussing structure. Structure will give a
logical flow to your audience. There is nothing worse than a
scatter-brained personal that is too busy, it turns women off.
1. Let us begin with the picture. Women are not visually
stimulated in the way men are, so seductive is not the key. You
must be well groomed and approachable. Look into the camera.
Looking away will make you seem aloof. Use inviting body
language. Smile, and bear your neck dimple. (Where the collar
bone meets the neck) Military uniforms and business suits (ties)
cover this area for a reason. We cover this vulnerable area so
as not to portray vulnerability. In your personal ad you want
vulnerability. Remember you are targeting women. 2. Salutations
- According to Parade magazine a simple Hi! is a great opener.
This is just the ice breaker. 3. Personal introduction - Give
your name or nickname if you wish.
4. Biographical information - Start out with an opener which
will grab her attention and reach into her heart. Appeal to her
emotionally. Women are emotionally centered. Make it so that she
must read your ad! After this stage give her just the facts.
This directness shows strength and confidence. Both are
qualities which women value. Be honest and avoid the heartbreak
of separation caused by dishonesty. Maybe she would rather have
a plumber than the CEO of Microsoft after all.
This is your online dating bio, so include what you wish. Items
usually mentioned are; age, occupation, and children, race,
place of birth, where you live, favorite foods, entertainment
preferences, hobbies, music tastes, and education.
Finally, give them some tangible asset about yourself to make
her want you. No boasting. Put it in such a way that you do not
seem arrogant. Put it something like - I've been told that I
have a great sense of humor or that I'm a great cook.
5. Now that you have told them you know who you are, tell them
you know what you want. Do you want a down to earth gal? Say so.
The divas will be repelled and the woman who appreciates it most
will answer your call. Be descriptive and to the point!
6. Conclusion - Paint a mental image of what your lives would be
like together. Something romantically appealing works wonders.
In case you haven't noticed women love romance. Woo her. Be
careful in your invitation not to use negative or conditional
words like - if you are the one. Instead of this use - you are
the one I would love to warm up by the fire with. She will know
when you are speaking to her, if she is the one. Use these final
words to make her feel like a kindred soul. Once your ad is
structured coherently we must now ensure that the following
elements have been included.
1. Salutation - Short, polite. Hi! or Howdy, whatever best suits
who you are.
2. Descriptive adjectives - Positive and powerful superlatives
which will enhance her imagery experience and build curiosity.
Infect her with your zest for life
3. Spelling and grammar - Look intelligent, educated, and
thoughtful.! Consult a spell check or dictionary and correct
errors. We are not all English professors, Have someone critique
your writing.
4. Warm text - Use key words that stimulate emotion. Words such
as fun, romance, love, happiness, and feel give a warmth to your
writing and will give her a positive reading experience. Again,
this will give her a little insight as to what life with you
might be like.
5. Courtesy - Don't use harsh language or slang. Best to come
across in a serious dating forum as polite.
We realize that there is a trend of extremism out there that
feels the need to shock. She will appreciate you even more for
being a gentleman online.
6. Spur her to action - At the end of your ad be sure to urge
them to reply now. Make it a suggestion. Say something like -
Why not email me now and seize the day with me? I'll be right
here waiting for you !
We have an example of a dynamite personal ad at
http://christiandatemate.com
For the ladies
Fortunately for women the online dating scene is predominantly
male in terms of numbers. This works to your advantage - more
fish to choose from. However you cannot rest on your laurels
though. You still need at least a cursory knowledge of what
motivates men, blended with your own original creative touch.
Hopefully you took the time to read the men's section. All of
the above applies to women as well with a few exceptions. Make
them want to read your ad using compelling imagery. Remember men
are more visually stimulated than you are.
Use a complimentary photo of yourself. Alluring is good, but be
careful not to send the wrong message. Be sure to project
yourself as warm and inviting. Smile and look into the camera.
Use body language that says come a little bit closer.
Best wishes in your quest!