Becoming the Alpha Male: Learning to Be the Go To Guy
To become an alpha male, you must become the "go to guy" within
your circles. What I mean by that is that you must be the person
everyone thinks to call first whenever they have a problem.
Why?
Because it puts you in a position of dominance, where you get a
chance to strengthen your connections, and help someone solve
one of their problems.
In order to become a dominant alpha male, you must take the
necessary steps towards becoming the one resource that everyone
needs - someone who is irreplaceable - you must become the go to
guy.
You must learn to network and increase your contacts among
various people in various lines of work and positions of power,
so that when people come to you with a problem, you can "call a
friend of yours" who has the answer.
Whether it's someone who wants to buy a truck, and you just
happen to know a friend of yours who is a truck salesman or
whether it's a friend who needs financial advice, and you know a
financial advisor, you must be the one they come to when they
need advice.
Here's how to do it:
When a friend of yours expresses a need, offer to help him
saying that you'll call a buddy of yours who may have the answer.
Never - and I mean never - just give your friend who has the
problem the name and phone number of the person who has the
answer.
To do so would be to cut yourself out of the loop, lessening
your position as the go to guy. You want to be the go between
for as long as possible, so that it is obvious that without your
help, neither side would get any of the possible benefits that
may result from this problem.
After you offer to help your friend, you must call the buddy of
yours with the answer. At this point, you must open the lines of
communication with him, and ask him for some advice, telling him
that you have a buddy who needs help.
Once the lines of communication are opened, and both parties
know you're involved, you can try and set up a meeting. If at
all possible, try to attend the meeting and introduce both of
them - it shows that without you, there would be no solution.
If a meeting doesn't work, or if it would be really awkward for
you to be with both of them, pass on the contact info to
whichever party asks for it and leave the whole situation alone
for a while.
After some time has gone by, follow up with both parties - just
to see how things went.
You want to see how the problem was resolved, but this also
reminds them that if they did find a solution, that you were
responsible for making the connection that brought about this
solution.
You can see that you must be very tactful in how you approach
the situation, and in exactly what you say. If you would like to
brush up on your conversational skills, take a look at http://conversat
ion-starters.blogspot.com
This is a win-win situation for you. For your friend with the
problem, you showed him that you've got contacts that work and
that you can be trusted to help when he has a problem.
For your buddy with the solution, you've shown yourself to be an
invaluable source, as you referred him business, showing him
that you can be counted on to produce results.
It also shows him that you know a lot of people and that you
remember him when those people have problems that he can help
them with.
In both cases, both of your friends "owe you" and you've
solidified your position as the go to guy. In some cases, they
may even brag about you to others, spreading your reputation as
a go to guy, which adds even more prestige to your position as
alpha male.