Rules of Play: What to Know Before You Begin
Although swinging is a great way to branch out from your
ordinary experience, there are some things that you want to keep
in mind to keep everyone happy and safe.
NO means NO
If you are in a swinging experience and another person decides
that they don't want to participate or changes their mind about
something that they are doing, you must listen to them. This is
not a game of pushing limits, so if someone is uncomfortable,
then you must be ready to stop. They might not be ready for
something just yet. Maybe they will be later.
Respect
Being in a sexual experience or situation with someone else can
be an exhilarating experience, but only if you feel like you are
being treated with respect. You don't want anyone being rude or
judgmental to you, do you? On the same note, if the couples in
the situation have set certain rules of play, then you need to
honor them.
Rejection
If you are rejected, then try not to take it personally. Being
in this open and honest environment is extremely satisfying, but
also very honest. If someone is not interested, then move on.
It's nothing personal.
Jealousy
If you or your partner experiences any feelings of jealousy,
then you want to talk about them right away. Find out what made
you jealous and try to compromise on a way to solve the issue.
Don't keep quiet about it, it can make it even worse.
Common sense
If you feel uncomfortable with a person, then remove yourself
from the situation. Even if your partner is happy, trust
yourself and your feelings to guide you to safe and happy
swinging experiences. Watch another person's body language. If
they look uncomfortable, stop what you are doing or saying. If
they seem to be responding to you, then you're in a good groove.
Privacy matters
The life of swinging involves a certain amount of discretion for
everyone involved. Since not everyone is as open as you, you
will need to feel as though whatever goes on in the swinging
situation will stay between the persons involved. Activities are
not shared with ANYONE else, only with each other.
Honoring your partner
Make sure that your partner realizes that they are the most
important part of the swinging experience. Don't just arrive at
the club or other location and dash off with someone else. Take
the time to touch and be affectionate with your partner before
going onto anything else. Show them that they are the number one
in your life. Find a way to show each other that you're thinking
of them. Some couples like to reserve certain acts for each
other alone. And leaving together at the end of the fun also
shows your commitment to each other.
Taking the time to set up rules before starting to swing will
help you avoid any problems in the future. Research everything
and make sure to communicate with your partner. And have fun!