The Truth About Dating Today's Sexy Women
I received a very interesting email from a man regarding how to
deal with what he calls "today's new breed of woman"-- sexy
women who expect men to be subservient and submissive.
I get a lot of emails on this topic, many from men comparing
American women to foreign women, complaining that American women
are too domineering to deal with. Is this true? Does "today's
sexy women" really want a wimp for a man... or is there
something else going on? Read on to discover the surprising
answer...
"John, I have read much of your information with interest. You
always emphasize having authority with women. But my question
is: what about today's dominant sexy women? Many women of today
are dominant and expect and require a man to take the submissive
and subservient role.
To these new breed of women, a dominant man is anathema! These
attractive, sexy women expect a man to play 'second fiddle,'
even to cater to their every whim. It is their way or the
highway! But how do I approach today's dominant women without
appearing too needy? And even more how do I get on intimate
terms with them? I have known some dominant women but I have
never gotten intimate with them. They have used me as a play
toy, a personal chore and errand boy at their beck and call with
nothing to show for it in the end. Thanks, Tom"
Tom is misinterpreting "dominance" here--today's women
absolutely do NOT want a submissive, subservient man. They want
a man who defines authority, and acts like, well, a MAN. The
problem is, there are so many wimpy, wussy, whiney little boys
out there, that very desireable, sexy women who are approached 5
times a day, are forced to come up with a testing mechanism to
separate the "men from the boys." Imagine being approached 5
times a day by guys, and the time and energy it would take to
reject them all?
What they do is, they test men by seeing if they'll act
submissive and subservient. The instant the "man" does, he's
classified as a wuss, and the woman will continue to see how far
she can push the envelope, hoping and praying for some display
of authority. But, in today's society where men are raised to be
pansies and whiners, sexy women often never get it, becoming
more and more frustrated.
However, when you demonstrate authority early on, and let her
know in a naughty, funny, yet firm way that her tests are for
wimps and whiners, an amazing thing happens--she's attracted to
you and appreciates the authority you've given her. Lookit, I've
met and dated a lot of sexy women other guys consider "dominant"
and in talking to and spending time with these women all of them
say the same thing--"I just want to find a MAN." Are today's
women a bit more assertive? Sure--but all that means is that
you, as a man, be more assertive and authoritative in return.
Unfortunately, most "men" today go the opposite way, putting on
the diapers and crying for Mommy because a woman was "mean" to
them.
Probably the most misunderstood subject in today's world is
authority--many men mistake authority for abuse of authority, or
are uncomfortable with the subject altogether. The truth is,
authority is simply the art of getting other people to want to
do what you want them to do, and can be learned by any man. The
bad news is, there are few places to learn it, the good news is,
I have a system that will teach it to you, and I highly
recommend you get your hands on it.
Look, I have never met a sexy woman, no matter how assertive she
seems on the outside, who doesn't respond to true authority by a
man, especially one who lets her know he recognizes her tests,
and they don't wash with him. In my mind, there is no better
opportunity than when you meet the so called "new breed of
woman" because when you know how to deal with her tests, and
demonstrate that to her, she'll do anything to please you and
keep you happy in return. Why? Because she knows her chances of
finding that in another man in today's Age of the Wuss are
between slim and none.
-John Alanis "The King of Let 'em Come to You"