Long Distance Relationship - Advice on Dos and Don'ts
Long Distance Relationship - Advice on Dos and Don'ts
Throughout our experience working with long distance
relationship couples, we had discovered that there are lots of
thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order
to survive the relationship. Below are some of the advices that
we have compiled over the years. Although they may look simple
but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than
your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the
relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome
of your distance relationship. Consider some of the below do and
don't list and together with your desire, I am pretty sure you
are able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and
fun.
Do's
1) Establish an effective communication channel The very first
thing that you must do in a long distance relationship is to
establish an effective communication channel. Most people will
think that telephone is the most convenient mode of
communication but apart from the telephone services, there are
some other alternative you can use. Instant messenger, emails,
VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective if you
know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its
own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to
explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.
2) Plan to meet each other There is nothing more important than
planning to meet each other again at an interval of time
throughout the period of your long distance relationship. This
will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other
over the things that you cannot do while apart. The anticipation
of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement,
hope and as well as eliminating the lonely feeling in your LDR.
3) Build hobby that you can both share By building and keeping a
hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on
throughout your distance relationship. Finding something to do
online can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach
ability but never leave out conventional hobby as well because
you do not need to have your partner's physical present to share
a hobby.
4) Surprise your partner Occasionally surprise you partner with
cards, gifts, letter and flower out of their expectation apart
from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and
your partner will be sure to love your effort in keeping them
happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always
spice up your distance relationship regardless how far your
partner may be.
5) Capture and share that interesting moment Throughout the
period of your LDR, you can always capture some interesting
moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as
audio recording. This will indirectly keep your partner informed
on what has happen in your life despite the physical distance.
Don'ts
1) Settle for a temporary replacement One of the mistakes that a
distance relationship couple often make is to settle for a
temporary replacement when their partner is not physical around.
By letting a third party into your life, you will not only put
your distance relationship to risk but you will also break the
mutual trust and agreement that you make. Although it may not be
done intentionally but this type of mistake will be very costly
to your long distance relationship.
2) Take the relationship lightly The absence of your partner
does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the
relationship. You must remember that, your partner has their own
right to participate in any decision making toward the well
being of your relationship regardless where there are. A long
distance relationship is also as important as a normal
relationship and your partner has their own right to be treated
fairly.
3) Wait and see attitude Most of the failures in distance
relationship that we observed are contributed by the wait and
see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the
insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the LDR will
work but at the same time they do not want to put a stop to the
relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this
kind of attitude, refrain from walking into one at the first
place because both you and your partner will suffer in the
relationship. In a LDR, both partners must be committed and
proactive in bringing the relationship to a higher level.
4) Suspicion There are no rooms for suspicion in a long distance
relationship. In order for you to survive your distance
relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole
heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for
each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to
suspect your partner at any point of your LDR. Although it is
easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is apt to do
something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your
nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such
unnecessary stress in your LDR.
5) Succumb to negative comment on LDR Couples in distance
relationship always make a mistake by believing that LDR do not
work. The negative impression you have in LDR will eventually
hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to
listen to the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided
to enter into a long distance relationship, you must learn to
believe that your relationship will work. I knew it because I
had successfully conquered my own distance relationship due to
the reason that I am not influence by any of the bad comments I
received.