Blind Date Basics
Your friend has just set you up with a guy you have never met
and know nothing about, except what she has told you. You have
those fears. What if I don`t like him or what if I like him but
he doesn`t like me. Well don`t worry, we are here to help.
Keep an open mind.
Remember this is a blind date. You have never seen this guy
before. Don`t form a mental image of him or have high
expectations. You will only be disappointed if he is not how you
imagined. You will know within the first few minutes whether you
are attracted to him or not.
Keep it short but sweet Don`t arrange to meet at the cinema, for
dinner or any where else hat could keep you together for more
than an hour. Arrange to meet up for a coffee or during your
lunch break. If you are not interested in the guy then you can
make a quick exit if you have only agreed to meet for half an
hour or an hour and if you do like him then you can stay where
you are or arrange to meet up again.
Way out It is crucial when on a blind date. that you have an
escape route. You could get a friend to call you 30 minutes into
the date and if you don`t like him you can make an excuse and
leave and if you do like him then you can tell your friend to
call you back later. (Remember to always let someone know where
you are.) Or you could tell him that you promised your friend
you'd go shopping an hour after you and he planned to meet. If
the date is going well, pretend to go call her to let her know
that "you're not up to going shopping." Go shopping if you
aren`t interested. You could get some friends to turn up at the
meeting point and if things aren`t going well you can leave with
them and if things are going well tell them you will meet up
with them later.
Meet 'n' greet One of the biggest mistakes people make when
going on a blind date. is trying to be someone they aren't.
When meeting someone for the first time, be yourself. Whether
that means going all out or remaining casual, your personality
will shine through only if you're not trying to be something you
aren't. While first impressions are important, do not feel the
need to wear heels on a Sunday if you'd normally wear flip-flop
sandals. He wants to know who you are; not whom you think he
wants you to be.
Better safe than sorry While going on a blind date can be
exciting and fun, remember that you have no firsthand knowledge
about the person you are meeting. If you have been set up
through mutual friends, they will most likely have a rough idea
of your plans. But just in case, make sure someone knows exactly
where and when you're meeting. If the person you are meeting is
a complete stranger, however, you need to take even more
precautions. Make sure someone knows your whereabouts, knows the
name of the person you will be meeting, and how long the date is
scheduled for. You may want to have a friend join you, or "run
into you" about 15 minutes into the date to check up on you.
Who`s paying Make it clear from the start if you intend to pay
for half of everything. You may not want to feel like you owe
the guy anything.
Goodbye Parting after a blind date more has the potential to be
very awkward, but it doesn't have to be! Should you kiss him, if
you like him? Should you tell him you aren't interested? It's
always best to do whatever you think feels right. If you are
interested in going out with him again, make sure he knows it
and tell him that you will call. If you aren't interested in
seeing him again, make sure that you let him know. It's better
to be honest then stringing him along to false hopes.
Getting to know him Pay close attention to the things he says,
which can reveal a lot. Discussing taste in music, film, food,
and art can be a great way to find out if you two have common
interests-or nothing in common at all!
You should also look for common "warning signs" when on a blind
date. If the guy does any of the following, watch out!