The Memory of a Valentine
The touching story of one woman's journey of joy and sorrow and
why Valentine's Day holds a special place in her heart.
My husband Matt and I met during college. Ours was a love
affair for the ages. We met during my sophomore/his junior year
at a football party. We quickly became the "it" couple on
campus, and seemed to not be subject to the many squabbles and
frequent breakups of many of our friends. He proposed to me just
after he graduated, and we married the day after my graduation
the following May.
Emily was our honeymoon baby. Even more appropriate, she was
born on Valentine's Day itself. Our families teased us
mercilessly--not only were we the "perfect couple," but we
became pregnant immediately to a baby born on Valentine's Day.
It seemed to be fate.
We called Emily our Golden Child. She was bounding with joy and
seemed to just emanate it from her pores. While I probably am
biased as her mother, I thought she was the most beautiful
creature ever created. She had dark gold curls that never seemed
to do what I wanted to coax them to do, and her father's
chocolate brown eyes with a very faint golden rim. She was truly
breathtaking.
We always wanted more children, but didn't seem to fall pregnant
as easily as we had before. However, we were content with our
Emily. Until the May just after Emily turned 4. It was the day
before Matt's and my anniversary, and Emily and I were running
errands. I was admittedly in a hurry, trying to get everything
done before our scheduled 5th anniversary vacation in three
short days. I was harried. Emily sensed that and was restless
herself. I became cross with her. To try to distract her, I
reached into the back set to turn up the music on her toy... I
never saw the truck coming.
I woke up four days later in the hospital. Everything from those
next few days is still fairly fuzzy, but I remember the moment
when Matt told me that Emily didn't survive the crash. All I
could think about was the last words she heard from me. I
crossly asked her to be quiet for just five minutes.
I slowly recovered from my own numerous injuries. Matt was
amazingly supportive, but things obviously weren't the same as
before. Our Golden Child was gone.
Her birthday was approaching, and I wasn't sure how I was going
to make it through. To make matters worse, Matt's company was
sending him to Zurich, Switzerland, for the 10 days preceding
Valentine's Day for a special conference. I don't think I ever
felt so alone as I did those 10 days.
When Matt landed in New York on Valentine's Day, Emily's
birthday, he called to confirm that I would be at the airport to
pick him up from his connecting flight. He told me that he had a
special Valentine's gift for me. I told him that I wasn't in a
Valentine's sort of mood, but he insisted that this would help.
Things seemed infinitely better when I saw Matt coming off the
plane. He gave me a giant hug, and then we grabbed his luggage
and headed home. When we got home, he sat me down and gave me a
small wrapped box. He told me that he hadn't planned on getting
me anything for Valentine's this year since it was so painful
for us both, but he saw these in Zurich and knew that he had to
bring them to me.
I unwrapped the box, and saw a brand name that was unfamiliar to
me -- DeLaf