I Want That Hill!
"You see a huge hill ahead of you and you are excited. You want
that hill! You can't wait to ride it!" These are the words of my
teacher as she leads the 8:45 a.m. class in the stationery bike
cardio workout known as "spinning." I understand exactly what
she means. I increase the resistance on my bike to simulate the
hill, and I commit to it, knowing NOT ONLY that the hard part of
the workout will be good for me BUT ALSO that I will actually
love doing it.
This is a whole new universe for me. My native response as I
approach a big hill, virtual or otherwise, essentially goes like
this: "Whooooaaaaaa! Oh no! Look at that HUGE hill coming up! Oh
my god, can I do it?" My teacher's "You want that hill!" is
about as alien to me as "For a reward, each of you will get to
take home one of these large queen termites!" I don't think so!
My twenty-something daughters are athletes, and I have seen how
much their athletic development has enriched their lives and
contributed profoundly to their personal evolution. For example,
Sarah learned to "play at 100%" as a soccer goalie, and I know
this has carried over into other parts of her life. From early
experiences with great coaches, Emily learned to "play from her
strength," a lifelong winning strategy for her.
GOING FOR MORE THAN ENOUGH . . .
My old pattern with athletic work has been to interpret a
certain level of physical challenge as "enough." As in "enough
is enough." And then I would stop, thinking I was taking care of
myself. As in "I don't need this." But now, at age 53, I find
myself eagerly embracing an entirely different pattern, not
because it's good for me (though it is), but because I am
thrilled with the payoffs.
I am finding that HANGING IN - past where I used to throw in the
towel - is opening up new and wonderful parts of my life. It's
not just that my fitness level is increasing, but also that I
have new options. I am training to ride the Pan Mass Challenge
with my older daughter in August, a two-day 170-mile bicycle
ride and fundraiser. I have long dreamed of finishing an
endurance event, but this is the first one that I am actually
taking on.
And get this: I love the training. Don't get me wrong - when I
round a curve and see a steep rise, my first impulse is still
"Oh no! A hill!" But I'm learning how to not get stuck there.
Learning to focus on gears, on breathing, on strong legs, on
full strokes. I DO want that hill. Very smart people have been
doing this sport for a long time, and there is a large body of
knowledge to draw on. Cyclists are generous in sharing what they
know; it's easy to be a learner in this context.
It turns out the hill is do-able. Amazing! And then there is the
down-hill side. Even more amazing. And often there are flat,
rolling roads, and I am once again a girl on her bike, flying
through the wind, smelling the spring, loving the moment,
feeling strong.
And of course, there's spillover. I am learning to say, "I want
that hill!" in other parts of my life and work as well. Getting
better at spinning is helping me play harder elsewhere. Am I
playing at a hundred percent yet? Probably not, but I'm getting
closer.
ACCELERATING ENTHUSIASM
So, what are the learnings here that I want to share with you?
Here are my Coaching Tips. These ideas apply to endeavors that
you are clearly and unambivalently committed to. They do not
apply across the board.
A. When you endure the discomfort of being out of your comfort
zone, there can be juicy rewards. Go a little beyond where you
usually stop. Take the risk. You'll know from your results (the
feeling of the whole experience itself) whether this is a good
risk for you or not.
B. One way to take yourself to new levels of effectiveness is to
reframe the way you look at challenge. As you flip your "Oh NO!"
into "Lemme at it!" the hard work actually gets easier.
C. Moving beyond your resistance to challenge (wanting to stop)
can result in huge gains, which in turn fuel all your
intentional endeavors.
D. Do not underestimate the interrelatedness of everything going
on in your life! Know that any time you take a step forward in
any arena in your life, you are also moving yourself forward in
other arenas of your life. Regarding the queen termite, you'll
have to decide for yourself. If you're considering hiring a
coach to help you with challenges like these, contact me at
sharon@stcoach.com for an initial consultation at no charge.
COPYRIGHT 2002, Sharon Teitelbaum. All rights reserved.