How Are Your Boundaries?
Are you squandering time and energy because of absent or weak
boundaries? Take this simple self-assessment and see how you
measure up.
Answer true or false for each of these items:
1. I am generally present, wherever I am. When I'm at work, I'm
100% at work. When I'm home, I'm 100% at home. When I'm in a
meeting, I'm in that meeting. When I'm with my kids, I'm with my
kids. And so forth.
2. I do not spend time with people I don't really want to spend
time with.
3. I am honest with myself about what I will do and what I will
not do.
4. I am clear in my communications with other people about what
I will do and what I will not do.
5. I am not pressured into saying "Yes" when I want to say "No."
At work, in my community, at home, in my relationships.
6. People know that I am reliable. If I say I will do something,
they know I will deliver.
7. I do not rescue other people.
8. I own my schedule. My schedule does not own me.
SCORING: True = 1 point, False = 0.
Totals:
7-8: You have strong, clear boundaries. Keep up the good work,
and trust yourself to know when and where to build new
boundaries or strengthen the old ones.
5-6: You have some strong boundaries and could benefit from
strengthening others. Some focused work on your part could
deliver huge results for you.
Under 5: You are dissipating precious focus and energy through
weak or non-existent boundaries. You can make some quantum leaps
in your quality of life if you choose to strengthen these
boundaries.
Next Steps: For a boundaries "tune-up" or to check-in about one
of the above items contact me at sharon@stcoach.com for an
initial consultation at no charge.
Copyright 2002-3, by Sharon Teitelbaum, all rights reserved.