Eat More Sushi
There is a joke among women who have been 9-months pregnant,
that once your body has expanded into the unbelievable size and
shape it becomes at full term, it "knows" how to get there, and
has an inclination toward it. So watch out when you're having a
huge meal: you could get up from the table four sizes bigger
than when you sat down! Your body remembers.
Your spirit has memory too. It remembers moments of feeling
fulfilled and satisfied; it remembers experiences of pleasure
and play. If you are seeking more of these experiences in your
life, it can help to "remind" yourself how they feel.
Many of my clients hire me to assist them in getting more out of
their work. They want more satisfaction, more efficiency, more
profit, more creativity, more camaraderie, and more fun. Some
are in full-blown career changes, some are seeking the next job,
and many want to improve things in the work they are currently
doing. They ALL have one thing in common: they want to enjoy
their work more.
Would you like to enjoy your work more? Having more practice
with enjoyment can help you get there. Of course, you will still
need to directly address what is going on at work, such as
boundary issues, interpersonal dynamics, role limitations, pace,
alignment with your values, and so forth.
But you also need to get more practice with pleasure and
enjoyment. The single biggest mistake you can make is to put
yourself on an austerity or scarcity program. If you are
stressed and daunted by the challenges in front of you, you may
be tempted to eliminate the pleasure, fun, and joy from your
life - you may think you do not have time for them, given the
pressing nature of your current challenges. But this is exactly
when you need to experience that abundance and balance in your
everyday life.
More pleasure in any part of your life supports you in creating
more pleasure in your work life. Enjoyment in one part touches
all parts. By stretching your spirit and body into full-term
shape, you will know where to go! When you taste pleasure on a
regular basis, you begin to navigate toward it more naturally.
The more frequently and intensely you have it in your life, the
more you will orient toward it when it is available, like a
plant orienting toward sunlight.
When my daughter Sarah was in high school, she developed a love
for sushi. She and her friends would sometimes go to their
favorite sushi restaurant, located in a large renovated building
with stores and restaurants on the first floor and offices
above. While she sat and enjoyed sushi, she could see a
particular sign that regularly caught her attention:
"Smithsonian Center for Astrophysics." The CFA's administrative
offices were on 2nd floor of the building.
Around this time, she began to realize she was happiest as a
hands-on, out-of-the-classroom learner. Her growing interest in
astronomy plus regular contact with the CFA's existence gave way
to her imagining an internship for herself at the CFA (the
observatory, not the offices) for her senior year. She went on
to create just that, getting credit for an independent study in
astronomy, and having an extraordinary experience working at the
CFA observatory. All from indulging her sushi pleasure! Her
saying "Yes!" to sushi opened up another "Yes!" in her life.
Following one passion often leads intuitively to another opening
or opportunity. Being sensitive to those callings is key.
When you or someone you are close to is pregnant, you suddenly
notice how many pregnant women there are around. When you buy a
Camry, you see more Camrys around than you ever did before. When
you make fun a part of your life, you find more opportunities
for it than you used to think were possible. When you experience
more pleasure anywhere in your life, you are more likely to
manifest it in your work.
Coaching Tips:
1. Get very clear what experience you want more of in your work.
2. Identify the next steps you need to take to have more of
that experience in your work.
3. Identify another arena in your life where you could have more
of that same experience.
4. What are the next steps you could take to create it for
yourself in this arena?
5. Take the next steps identified in steps 2 and 4.
6. Repeat steps 2-5 until you have the results you want.
7. Start over at step 1 with another experience you want more
of.
If you're considering hiring a coach to help you get more of
what you want in your work, contact me at sharon@stcoach.com for
an initial consultation at no charge.
COPYRIGHT 2001, Sharon Teitelbaum. All rights reserved.