9 Sizzling Tips on How to Triumph in Dating for the Shy Woman
Dating is can be an absolute terror for shy people and they are
too scared to do something about it. Do not be afraid. A lot of
shy people have succeeded in meeting new people and formed
lasting, happy relationships. With a little practice, you can
too.
An innocent handshake or ordinary eye contact is a petrifying
experience for the shy woman. Your brain locks up as you
struggle to think of something to say, you fall apart as soon as
you're asked what you do for a living, the heat rises in your
face and under your arms, in the blink of an eye you are choking
totally incapable of saying anything.
Here are some tips for taming your social terror
1. Smile - people respond positively to a smile - a genuine
smile projects friendliness and approachability. Show teeth
whenever possible and practice in front of a mirror if you have
to - a disarming smile never fails to get them.
2. Be prepared to answer the question of what you do for a
living or what keeps you busy. Just state clearly what it is you
do and don't apologize for it.
3. Listening skills - It is vital that you listen to what the
other person is saying instead of fretting about what you will
say.
4. Practice asking questions about the new friends you meet,
make a list if you have to and memorize them: How did you get
into your line of work? What college did you go to? Have you
seen any movies lately? People love to talk about themselves
(except you), ask safe, all-purpose questions that lead to
conversations.
5. When you find yourself beginning to choke, go on the
offensive by asking questions.
6. Breathe deeply and slowly whenever you feel you are begin to
heart race. When you start to feel that your face has become so
hot you could use it for a wok, excuse yourself and go to the
restroom.
7. Be sincere when you give a compliment. It may seem odd by
complimenting a man on his sharp nose or sexy eyes, so
compliment him on an accessory he is wearing or fond of.
8. Be conversant on current events and ready to discuss them
intelligently.
9. Everybody relates to simple topics like the weather, gas
prices, and new technology. There are people who can make
strangers feel like they've known them forever by talking
fearlessly about these topics whereas shy people worry that
talking about mundane things will make them appear stupid.
These tips will not do you any good if you always stay home.
Meeting new friends and talking to strangers can be
uncomfortable but over time it gets easier. You may feel more
comfortable watching television at home but I promise you,
Prince Charming will never climb through your bedroom window
looking for you!
If you experience a terrible night outing, don't get upset, take
it as a form of feedback on your new found skills, but give
yourself a pat for making the effort. When you have a good
night, understand that you earned it and know that countless
wonderful nights are ahead.