What Kind Of Parent Are You?
In today's society children seem to be getting in trouble at a
very early age. This kind of trouble is not just kids playing
pranks, these are serious criminal offences. Children, not even
teenagers yet, are becoming murderers and the increase in
children committing violent crimes as well as being charges with
drug related crimes, are just frightening. What is going on here
and where are the parents?
Now, wait a minute, all of the parents of these children can not
possibly be bad parents or can they? Of course, as a parent you
have the main responsibility in raising your child and teaching
them right from wrong and most of you probably do this to the
best of your ability. No parent want to see bad happen to their
child and it would therefore be natural to try and teach them
the right way of doing things. All of you can probably agree to
this but what is it then that is sending the children astray?
To find the answer to this perhaps you should start by looking
at how your parents raised you and their parents them. What is
different from them to you and what can you do about it? In all
honesty there probably is not much you can do about it because
if you look at society today compared to back then, it is two
completely different worlds. Back then it seemed like there was
a certain limit as to what society would accept when it came to
moral while today anything goes.
All time periods seem to have a certain trend which influences
the generation of that time. For example; the 60s had its flower
children and was all about sex, drugs and rock'n roll. You all
know this thing was not necessarily good for you but even though
it was all about these "bad" things there was also something
good that came along with it, love and peace. Through all the
trends of the past generations there has always been about both
good and bad. It is not like that for today's generation.
The hottest thing among today's youth is the inner city rap
culture. Now, don't get this all wrong because there is rap out
there which does promote good but unfortunately that is not the
part that appeals to the young people. What they hear is how
cool the brother hood of the gangs are and about taking revenge.
Guns and drugs are also becoming a part of children's everyday
life and it has actually become so prevalent that there is not
much you as a parent can do in order for your child not to
encounter these things.
What would your parents have done if you did something
unacceptable? They would probably have given you some sort of
discipline, right? Well that was back then because today, as you
probably know there are very strict laws as far as what you can
do when it comes to disciplining your child. It does not take
very much before discipline is considered child abuse which is
does not help the parents much when it comes to keeping their
children under control. Children are great manipulators and they
know to use this against their parents.
There are so many laws and restrictions out there put in by law
makers to prevent children from being harmed. You need to ask
yourself if these laws are really in the children's best
interest or are governments really helping you raise a
generation out of control. It sure seems like all the people in
generations before us have turned out ok with the amount of
discipline they got. They most certainly grew up with both
respect and courtesy for others, something which is rare to see
in today's youth.
So for the question; what kind of parent are you? If you feel
you are doing the best you can then you probably are and don't
feel bad because there are things you feel you could have done
different if only,,,,. There are way to many obstacles in the
way for a parent who have difficulties with a child who only
need to be put back in his place with the help of discipline
from his/her parents. You as a parent no longer have any rights
when it comes to raising your child as you see fit, all the
rights have been given to the children.