Ask your lawyer before "helping" her or him Sometimes, your best intentions turn out to be very bad ideas. For instance, many people try to record their spouse's telephone conversations with third parties, or they try to hide income. These actions may lead to more work on the attorney's part and that will increase attorney's fees. There are many other examples of how people have tried to "help," while only making the situation worse. The important thing to remember is - always ask your divorce lawyer first.

Keep your cool Most couples would not even consider a divorce if their relationship were not already a volatile one. The actual legal process of a divorce often exacerbates the situation and sometimes pushes one or the other spouse even closer to the edge of reason. This is when people smash vases, flatten tires, and burn clothes