How To Draw Anyone To Your Side - Spellbinding Attraction
Secrets You Would Not Want To Miss
Before I begin, I would like to first point out that throughout
this article I will be using "he" and "him", etc, rather than
awkwardly saying "he or she" or using "he/she". So please
understand I do not mean this as slight to women.
Many of my readers have often asked me, "How can I change my
partner? What can I do to make him do things the way I want it?
Or is it even possible?"
My question to you is, "Do you go into a relationship to change
another person?"
Well, you have to take responsibility for the choice you have
made if you do not like what you see today!
Truth is, you cannot change or force another person to behave in
the ways you desire just by telling him or pointing out to him.
Most times than not, it doesn't work.
The secret here is, whatever it is you would like your partner
to do - whether it is to do particular things, behave in
particular ways, or think in the ways you want it - your partner
has to see these ideas themselves as coming from themselves!
This is one of the secrets possessed by those cult leaders. How
is it that they are able to influence their followers to do what
they wish them to do so easily? Think about it. You can learn
their secrets.
If you are trying to save your relationship, your partner has to
see this idea of recouncilation and working and keeping this
relationship as coming from themselves.
Very often, it doesn't work if YOU keep telling them to see your
point, to work out something, to say something.
So, what can you do to possess that jedi-like magic to influence
your partner? I call this positive motivation. Try not to tell
your partner what to do. Stop making him see your point. It
won't work. However, keep these points in mind:
(1) Become the person your partner wishes to become.
(2) Improve your-self FIRST. The changes you like to see on the
outside will follow.
(3) Understand that most human beings naturally gravitated
towards the person who possess a higher vibrational energy. Now,
some of you might think this is too profound and metaphysical.
It is not. Simply, just ask yourself who attracts you in your
daily life and makes you think, "Gee, I wish I have his
confidence/strength/power/courage." Then, ask yourself what can
YOU do to become such a person.
Just recently, I ran into one of my friends, the guy who is a
bodybuilder (some of you might already know who I am talking
about if you read my last issue). When he saw me, he pulled me
to one side and confided in me.
He was running into big trouble. He told me. To cut a long story
short, he ran into one of his ex-girlfriends the other day, one
whom he had lost contact with for almost 2 years. She had a
boyfriend now, but was currently having some disagreements and
conflicts with him. Now, this friend of mine (let's call him Mr
X.), was very concerned about her.
They met up for a chit-chat not long after they bumped into each
other. Now, in case you are wondering, Mr X doesn't have any
intention to get back into a relationship with her. However,
being a good natured person, he still cares about her and treats
her just like his other friends. It wasn't long before Mr X
realized that the girl was contacting him more than 10 times a
week! It was clear to him that she had a different intention,
and was trying to get back into a relationship with him.
"Look, Cucan. I made it very clear to her that she was still my
friend and she was not to expect anything from me. Besides, she
had a boyfriend now. They were having some conflicts and
misunderstanding. All I did was just spending some time to
listen to her, to talk to her, and gave her a little help here
and there, that was all, I did all these just as I would do for
a friend. I didn't want to interfere with their affairs nor did
I want to be seen as a third party. But, apparently she wanted
something else and she was obviously trying to get close to me!
I didn't ask for all these! Now, what am I supposed to do?"
I was enthused by his remarks. And this got me thinking. How was
it that so many of my readers had a hard time making a
connection with the love of their life or even failed times and
times again trying to get the attention they are seeking from
their partners; and yet, this friend of mine was getting all the
(unwanted) attention without lifting a finger!
Some of you might have got it figured out. Naturally Mr X has a
higher vibrational energy than the woman. This is one reason why
his ex-girlfriend is attracted towards him.
There is another very important reason. And this is what I told
him, "My friend, the more you tell her that she is not to expect
anything from you, the more she'll find it difficult to drift
away from you! The reason is this: people want what they cannot
have! The more difficulty they have to getting something they
want, they more they'll want it. Even during their sleep they'll
think about it; it fills the whole of their consciousness so
much so that they will conclude for themselves that this is
definitely something they must have!"
Now, Mr X is such an understanding and caring man. Let me ask
you. Who wouldn't like to be with a caring, understanding
person? And he kept telling her: "Look, I can be there for you.
But now you have a boyfriend. Don't expect anything from me. We
are no longer in a relationship".
And of course, Mr X wouldn't have any difficulty being alone
with himself even if this girl was not around. It was no wonder
the girl found herself irresistibly attracted towards him!