What is that special charisma some people seem to have that allows them to quickly and easily get what they want, especially when it involves influencing or motivating other people?

Many of these motivators have learned the simple secret of making sure their own needs and desires align with the needs and desires of the people they want to influence. We can take clues from their success to insure our own.

Every day we have multiple opportunities to positively influence the choices and behaviors of the people around us:

--With our children, we may want them to do things in a particular way, like clean their rooms, do their homework before dinner, or choose friends we think are appropriate.

--At work, it may be that we want good relationships, the choice assignments, a promotion or a raise. Or, if we